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No advice here. Just a hearty "Yeahhh!". I feel the the same. I would be ready for the right person in a companionship, but I have felt like damaged goods and most of the time I haven't enough energy for myself let alone someone else. Also my libido kind of plays peek-a-boo with me so I wonder if it would be all that worth it. There is a person in my life who told my son he still loves me. I have taken myself out of the picture because of lifestyle differences. He frequents the bars and drug scene and that is just not me any more. Because of meds I really shouldn't drink but I do here at home once in a while. Here where I live there is really no where to meet other than bars. I quit smoking 20 years ago and have a hard time being around smoke now. I'll be curious to see what answers you get. I kind of feel that if you were lucky enough to have a relationship before diagnosis and they didn't run, you'd better hang onto them. Ha! It still amazes me that in this day and age when you mention to someone that you have MS they ask "What's that?"

no advice here either, sorry to say, my relationship was rocky before this all started mostly because he's Italian and I'm a Celiac and can't eat normal pasta, pizza or bread, became volatile when the MS symptoms started to appear a year and a half ago, started to really fall apart during the initial phase of dx, and ended with the dx. I'm attractive enough to gain interest of others, until they learn that I don't drink, can't dance anymore, am too tired to do much... and find out why... then it's the awkward smile thing and nothing... so i'm just gonna go with the flow for a while... best of luck to you, I pray you find someone compassionate and wonderful! Peace*

Don't know if this counts, but I don't have MS and have fallen (madly!) in love with my best friend who's had MS for 15 years. : )

Maybe you could find someone who is going through something similar to what you are.

Although you may feel like "damaged goods", the damage is beyond your control and you shouldn't view yourself as such. I know we all do... but if you can get past that it's easier for others to as well.

I've been dating and have met some nice guys. Most of which don't care about the MS, or are caring and understanding. I think I'm the one that actually has a problem dating people because sometimes it's hard to relate to people that don't understand MS.. and let's face it, we barely understand it ourselves.

There are online dating sites, even ones for disabled people that are a good way to meet people. That way you can have some anonymity and choose who you want to meet and even get to know them before you do. Just be safe and have fun with it!

Best wishes and good luck!

I used to tell up front now I don't . What is the name ofthe dsting ste?

I don't know... I guess I feel like we all have some issue or other that gets in the way. (For me, it's being spooked about getting into a relationship again after a very painful, scary marriage.)

I think that we all have to really pursue our interests- the things that make us SHINE. It magnetizes us somehow, and draws the right kind of people.

My sweetie, Ted, has MS, but he has all kinds of plans for his farmette and his art, and is forever out there pruning things and fixing things- and resting on the grass with the dogs when he needs to. He doesn't feel a need to apologize for his limitations (which I find reeeeeally attractive!)

He is excited about the future, and it makes the whole MS thing really small in comparison to his passion for life. It's inspiring! I want to be more like that. : ) xox Cecilia

I began dating a lady about a year before my formal diagnosis with ms. She was aware that ms was a probability but never let it be known if she had any problem with it. We continue to date and enjoy each others company. The only thing I don't do well anymore is DANCE....we just dance in place...LOL...not much moving around.....a little clumsy ya know.
We are who we are regardless of ms. We can let it control us or we can take every chance at lessening its control over us. I elect to live my life with vigor even though its at a slower pace..... My lady friend is about 10 years my junior and we have a blast!

I like it, Donny!