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Lost my mother in January
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Hello, my mother died in January, and I think I'm just now coming to terms with her loss. She was 83, and had been sick for a long time. She was end-stage Alzheimer's, and had been "gone" for about a year before her death.
My mother and I had a strained relationship. She had a drinking problem when I was a kid, and the way I dealt with her was to put up boundaries. Which I had to for my own survival. She was on the outskirts of my life by her own choice for many years. Then when she got sick, she wanted to be closer to me. But it had been too many years and it was difficult for me to let her in. I kept her at arm's length. Now that she is gone, I dream about her. I wasn't able to have a real conversation with her for a long, long time, and now I wish I had just one more chance to really talk to her. I'm having a hard time telling her goodbye. That sounds strange, I know. The goodbye is for me. Thanks for the opportunity to put this into words. Posted on 10/17/09, 09:10 pm |
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This sounds like me. My mom was also alchoholic and when she died I grieved not only the loss of her but of the relationship I had missed and the opportunity to ever have one which died as well. It's a lot to grieve at once. I takes a long time. I wish you well. 
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