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Miscarriage or spontaneous abortion is the natural or accidental termination of a pregnancy at a stage where the embryo or the fetus is incapable of surviving, generally defined at...
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Is it crazy that even tho I have had 2 first trimester losses this year, that I really want to try again? I had 1 d/c in feb then d/c in sept. I have been on ocps for 2 month since my last d/c and I plan to come off now. This year has been devastating with these losses and my family (excluding my DH) has asked me kindly to take a break.DH is quiet about it- he is leaving it up to me. MIL suggested nicely that I wait a year bc we have been thru too much. I also felt as if I had been thru too much, but still have this unquenchalbe desire to keep trying!I think i will, but will tell no one. Im just hoping this isnt a poor decision as I potentially could fit in another mc this year-yikes!Im scared but driven...
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I just had my 2nd miscarriage and am already wanting to try again. We don't have any children yet so I feel like my need and want for a baby is overpowering my fear. I don't think it's crazy but we are doing some genetic testing before I try again to see if there are any problems that could be fixed (i.e. low progesterone level).
Dana 
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Nope, not crazy - go for it.
Trying again helped me to cope (although I only had one loss). It's just hard for those around you who think that it would be easier for you not to risk it. You may find that YOU need to reassure and support THEM! Daft really but they need to believe that you're OK with it and could handle another loss if the worst happened. Worth getting some blood tests done too just in case there's some other factor involved. Good luck.
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I am sorry for your losses. I also had 2 m/c this year, one in April and the other in September. We have committed to trying again one more time, but first are having some tests run. The wait for the first month we can try again (December) is excrutiating! I wish you all the best
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Thanks Ladies, It is such an amazing and strong drive to become a mother. It feels good to hear from those who share my drive. Sometimes it feels a bit like a curse tho! I have had all the testing done and everything came back "normal" so I figure I will keep trying. I feel really good about the fact that no one knows my decision. It has taken pressure off me and now no one is asking about how my baby making plans are going. Thanks again for your support.
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I've had two losses this year, January and August. We had a bunch a blood work done, hoping to get the results Wednesday. But we will be trying again starting this month. Trying again is the only thing that keeps me going right now. Good luck to you!
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I think if you're up for trying again already that's wonderful and very brave of you. I had one this summer and I'm just finally almost ready to try again. i was just so scared that it would happen again that i wasn't ready. After having two have your doctor's done any investigating as to why this has happened? Maybe it's time to do tests etc and they can find something that can be helped so it doesn't happen to you again.
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I've had 2 misses this year and i'm trying again
I would hate to wait and it happened again and then be pissed at myself because i did wait If it feels right for you babe go for it, I am seeing counselor once a month and i plan to when i'm pregnant again, this might be something to consider i hope all goes well for you, go with your heart XXXXXXXXXXXX
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It is not crazy at all!!
I had a chemical pregnancy in early Feb - started bleeding at 4 weeks 4 days. We waited to try for 3 months and then my second loss came at 9 weeks (found out at 11) in July. I knew right away that I wanted to try again, DH decided the same thing about a month later. We conceived our current baby 10 weeks after my D&C. I feel so blessed to be expecting again and I decided to try again quickly b/c my OB said it could take us up to 6 months. I'm on my third pregnancy in 2009, and I don't regret it at all. (even though our families said to "relax") If you and DH are ready for a baby, go for it - don't let anyone tell you what is best for you!
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I dont think anything is wrong with you. If I was married I would be trying again... but Im not and my boyfriend was not the father of my first baby, and hes not interested in kids any time soon. If you are strong enough to try again, try again!
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I had two losses back to back: a missed miscarriage in March 2008 and an ectopic pregnancy in May 2008 (no period in between, but somehow, I got pregnant after the first loss). I also wanted to try again, as soon as possible. I wanted nothing more than to be a mom. I think it is different for every woman. Talk it over with your husband and you both make the decision. I don't mean to be rude, but you should not feel pressured by anyone else who tells you what they think is best for you. Only you know yourself best.
For me, I wanted to try again ASAP, but I felt that I needed time to heal, emotionally more than physically. I decided to focus my time and energy into losing a few pounds before trying again. Also, my husband was out of state for a few weeks, but when I felt that it was time, I actually flew over to be with him for 6 days (this is when I "predicted" I would ovulate) and less than two weeks after returning, I had a + HPT ...now, I have a beautiful 6-month old baby girl! You don't have to wait a year. I was also told (by an aunt who'd had several m/c as well) to wait a year, but I didn't want to. So, do what you feel is best for you.
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