Miscarriage Support Group

I'm going to do the same thing. I hope to go this weekend, if not it will be soon. Several people on here have tattoos for the baby they lost. I am going to get an angel on my wrist. I do have a tattoo already on the back of my hip though and I didn't think it was too painful. It is more of an annoying feeling than anything. Some places are worse than others. A general rule is that it hurts worse directly on a bone, it is less painful in an area with a little more padding. One of my other friends has a shooting star near her uterus in memory of her angel. Some people get foot prints, butterflies, a name, or a date (due date, date you found out your baby was an angel, etc.) Just google memorial tattoos and you will find some good ideas. It took me weeks to settle on a design. Take your time and pick something that feels right to you!

I have 2. One is my son's name and bday on a rattle, and one is a dragonfly (I have a thing about them). The first one was on my back, and I was nervous and it hurt a little at first. But I had taken some tylenol beforehand, and got a Coke right before to help with the shakes. I relaxed and it was over before I knew it. I had to have a D&C on 9/14, and then again on 9/21 because the dr didn't get it all. They said there was no heartbeat, and they were afraid of infection. Anyway, I have been thinking about a tat for my baby too. If you think it is a good way to honor his/her memory, then I say do it. You could put it in a prominent place or a place for just you and your partner to see. I have thought about on my shoulder... to give the connotation of an "angel" being on my shoulder, but it is up to you. Hope you find healing.

I think it's a great idea. I may even do it, too! I already have a great big tattoo across my back of enormous angel wings. It does hurt but it's pretty minor compared to the physical pain of my miscarriage. Generally soft squishy places hurt less than boney ones. As for the design, anything your heart desires. I found a cute little angel picture on myforeverchild.com jewelry site. The angel says, "Empty arms, broken hearted." Makes me cry everytime...

A little tattoo is nothing compared to what you have already been though. So, go for it!

My daughter was 5 weeks old when she died. I just joined DS and not sure how I got joined to this group but ... I got her actual footprints on each side of my collar bone with her birthday and deadth date underneath them. I also have her name Trinady Lynn on my foot and plan on having her tombstone put on my arm. I know my situation is different and I am sorry for your loss.

I had a tattoo done this past July--my best friend from high school did it (she's a tattoo artist). It is an angel baby sleeping in the hands of God and I had it done on my right shoulder blade. Yes, it hurt..but it was temporary, more like a cat scratch than anything. Like Sara said, it hurts worse if it's done in area where there's more bone than muscle. This is the second one I've had done too--the other is a cross with the autism ribbon (I have two teenage sons on the autistic spectrum) and I may have at least one more done, I haven't really decided yet. (My memorial tattoo is also my avatar here) Like these ladies said, shop around and find a design that clicks with you. Hugz and prayers to you, honey!

Hello there
I'm sorry to hear about your loss
I got a big angel put on my leg with a butterfly to represent the baby, then after my second i had another butterfly added
(hopefully i won't be covered in butterflies!)
I think they are good way to heal - my brother did mine and it was really good support
The pain of the tattoo will be nothing compared to the pain of losing you lil one
I agree with reply #1 - take you time picking the design and size
With the pain the best thing to do is take some hard lollies and have a distraction (music) cause if you start wiggling and shaking you might get a bad result
good luck babe hope this is helpful
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I think a tattoo as a memorial to your angel is a great idea. I lost my son at 18 weeks, and the only thing I have from him are his tiny footprints. I had them tattooed on my ankle and it brings me more comfort than I can explain. There are so many different ideas you could do to honor your angel...just do what feels right to you and what will bring you comfort and peace when you look at it. *hugs*

My first mc just marked a year yesterday. I was 5 1/2 weeks along. I went on the one month anniversary and had a small pair of angel wings put on my ankle. I recently lost my daughter at 18 weeks, me and my bf are having her footprints tatooed on the backs of our necks on what should have been her due date (3/13/10) in remembrance. I have 4 tatoos and the one that hurt the least was the butterfly I have right now on the back of my neck. I fell asleep getting that one

I think my tat was the best thing I could have done in honor of our child. I can look at it anytime and always remember that I am a mother. Best of luck!

When my full term son died unexpectantly after birth I got a tattoo of his handprint on my upper back. When my son died after only 18 weeks gestation last month, I am considering another one. Since I don't have his prints, I think I'm just going to get a copy of some feet and make them the size his feet were and add his loss date. Probably somewhere near his brother.