Miscarriage Support Group

I'm so sorry for your loss. I also lost my sweet baby in April. It hurts so much, some days more than others.

I am sorry that you are going through this too. It's not fair and it is one of the worst things a person can go through. Know that you are not alone in this. One day all things will be made right. I don't know when that day will be, but it will come.

Take care.

I understand the pain you are going thru. My cousin is pregnant with her first child and every time I look at her I feel cheated because my baby got taken away from me before it even had the chance to see this beautiful world. I keep wondering if it would have looked like me or my husband. This was the first miscarriage I have had to experience and i am not for sure if I will ever forget. I too don't want to be bothered or touched right now, but some say that it will get easier in time, we just may never forget our loved one. I feel for you deeply and am thinking about you thru this difficult time.

I'm so sorry for your loss. Your due date will be hard - I was on holiday with my husband - I didn't want to have to go into work etc... it didn't help that we were trying again and my period started on that day :(

I think your feelings are normal - it isn't fair. You did nothing wrong to cause the miscarriage (I don't know your details but you have to try quite hard to cause a miscarriage and even if you really put your mind to it it's hard to do) you have just been horribly unlucky.

The feeling that everything is pointless is mild depression. It should pass but sometimes people can't shake it. I read that if you stop washing and eating then it's bad and you need help. I fought mine by reading all the symptoms then forcing myself to do the opposite. I bought new, brightly coloured clothes and made myself go out and do things that I enjoyed beforehand and I think it helped. I definitely avoided pregnant women and babies though.
Take care of yourself.

Thank you all for your replies. I am so sorry for the loss breaking your hearts. I had a meltdown today and sobbed for a long time. I am overwhelmed at work, and I can't balance taking care of myself with it. I am just ready to snap. I am just sickened with myself. I should know better than this by now. I am not doing myself any favours by blaming myself but I just feel it's like whenever I think I can expect some good in my life I am slapped in the face. I can't get what I want, I'm just incapable. Sorry for the rant...I know I am depressed and I am on meds.....I'm just feeling hopeless.

My due date is approaching quickly, too. January 19th.. it will really be here before I know it. I think I need to start planning now what I'm going to do that day and treat myself to something nice. I know it will be an extremely hard day for me and I'm not sure if it will just be better to sob all day or try to ignore it by keeping busy that day. I have some time to think about it I guess.

megwink, You and I had the same due date. Jan. 19. I know it is going to be a very hard day. I actually talked my husband into going to Hawaii over the due date. That way, we don't have to go to work, or be around other pregnant women, or see my sister's baby who is due Jan. 4. We can just go be in paradise. I know it will be hard. But, at least we will be away from all the pain. I am praying for healing to come. I am praying for God's peace to come. Right now, I am in such a rough place. I have no peace over all of this. Waverly, I think it is okay to take the time to grieve and heal from this loss before you try again. I think it is important to any future pregnancies, that you heal completely from this loss. There is no time table for the grieving process. Take your time and do it in your way. There is no right way to go through this.