Miscarriage Support Group

em- i am so sorry you are going through this terrible tragedy. i have suffered three losses myself and one was a missed miscarriage where i went through a very similar scenario--at home, alone, in pain and scared. it was devastating. My heart goes out to you.

I am so sorry. I just went through this 3 weeks ago. I too passed my baby in the bathroom. What made it harder was that my doctor asked me to "retrieve" my baby and bring it in so they could be sure I passed everything. It was awful and I was hysterical.

PLEASE watch your bleeding and if you don't lighten up soon or get light headed PLEASE go in to the ER. I waited and ended up there...Take care of yourself and know that we are all here for you, my thoughts are with you.

Bathroom for me as well.
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I'm sorry for the loss of all the little ones mentioned here, and EM12, I hope that you're okay. There is never preparing for something like this in life. And when it happens, it's like our breath is ripped away, and we're left gasping at how to hold on.

Talk when you need to talk, cry when you need to cry. Be mad when you need to be angry, and know that you are not alone. I pray you strength for the difficult road ahead.
IfYouOnlyknew

I am so sorry for you loss. I suffered from a missed m/c back in May and went on to have a D&C. I have just found out Monday that I was pregnant again just to find out Wednesday that I am aborting. I know how sad you feel as I sit here and wait for the same thing to happen. Don't forget to express your feelings and I pray that you have good family support!

Hello. I am so sorry for your loss. I went through exactly the same thing 2 days ago. It was my first pregnancy. That is so painful! I can tell you that I will never forget this experience... I wanted so much to be a mommy! My doctor didn't asked me to bring anything which I am thankful for. Keep holding on... You are not alone, even though it feels like sometimes...

I'm so sorry. It hurts to go through.

oh, i'm so sorry that you had to go through that visual. i can't imagine how intense and surreal it was. i had a d&c and have had lots of strange looking clots since then. anyhow, i actually wanted to see the 'jar' with the contents after the d&c, but they wouldn't let me see it. I'm not sure if in some strange way it maybe good that you had that raw, horrifying experience. In my thoughts, you didn't flush your baby away, you flushed the failed pregnancy away. A biological detached thing, not the spirit at all. The baby's spirit is still waiting to come, to come inside a healthy pregnancy, at the right time and to have you as Mom.

I am so sorry. Even though professionals can tell you what a miscarriage may be like or you can read about it, nothing can prepare you for delivering your baby on the bathroom floor or into the toilet. I never dreamed it would happen like that - I thought some clots and blood would come out, but never an intact sac with a perfectly intact baby (I m/c at 12 weeks - baby died at 8 weeks). My natural m/c happened in May - we had a planned d&c that was suppose to happen 2 days earlier, but the baby came on his/her own.

It is a time of horror and shock and so do not beat yourself up about flushing the sac down the toilet. There are no clear thoughts at a time like that.

What helped me was to make a memorial box dedicated to my baby. I put small 'gifts' into it - like a toy train from my son, a family picture when I was happily pregnant, a sea shell (we live near the ocean), a CD of my music. I also wrote a letter to my baby indicating all of the dreams I had for him/her and our family. We buried the box at a special location and had a little ceremony.

Find something that will give you some comfort during this extremely difficult time.

I'm so sorry to hear that and i feel your pain. I learned a week ago at the doctors that my baby did not make it, i'm about to go threw the same thing. It's so hard to think of my angel inside of me. It's so horrible to feel this way. This is my 3rd miscarriage. And I just don't know how to deal with the emotional pain. It's painful to know others our experiencing this tragedy, i wish all the best for you.

I'm sorry for your loss... this is such a tough time for you. I also had a natural miscarriage, and the thought of flushing my baby down the toilet has made me very sad. I have even been angry with myself at times. I honestly would do it again if I had to though, D&C's scare me, because I have heard of scaring and being one with fertility issues I don't want anything else standing in my way. Your baby is with you, and I am here if you need to talk. Best wishes.