Miscarriage Support Group

I feel the exact same way. I just realized this morning that I have been completely ignoring a coworker who found out she was pregnant at the same time I did. Two days after my D&C, I went out for lunch with some of my friends, and 2 of them brought their babies with them. I was so upset and have not spoken to either of them since.

I feel the exact same way. In fact, one of my co-workers asked me for ideas for baby names last Friday and I broke down crying. I can only be friends with someone who'd pregnant if I cannot see the evidence.

Yep.
It's not fair.
I avoided all pregnant people and those with babies as much as possible although I could handle school-age children.
When I got pregnant again I went to the prematurity clinic every fortnight because of my previous loss and was surrounded by what looked like happy pregnant women. But when I spoke to them they all had awful stories of previous losses that made me feel really humbled.
I tried to think that it wasn't plain sailing for everyone but when I heard people talking about how they "weren't even trying" or how they liked an 18 month gap so had their 3 kids each the same age apart and stuff like that that took having a baby for granted - it really grated.
I will never assume that being pregnant means you're going to have a baby and I wish other people wouldn't too.

This make total sense to me!!
Everytime i get up the courage to go to the shop or something
Then i see a Pregnant women or someone pushing a pram, i break down and wonder why i bothered to leave the house
I find myself being locked away so i don't have to deal with it
I hate they don't look at me and they'll never know that i've been pregnant and i'm meant to be holding my baby like they are
GRRRRRRR
I'm also terrified that one of my friends will announce that there pregnant and i have also found out that so many people in my family are having babies and it breaks my heart that i should be celebrating with them
I too have a friend who had her baby, shes only just got a car, her husband smokes pot and she is going back to work after 2 months of having the baby, mean while i've got a beautiful home my husband i don't smoke and can stay off work for as long as i want to raise our child and i've have a reliable car that i payed off
Why why why me???
I feel your pain babe and it makes me so angry!!
If you would like to talk me i'm here
I hope the pain goes away for you soon :)
XXXXXXXXXXX

Yep. I feel bad, because then I'm judging other people on their 'worthiness' which in reality is totally stupid. Everyone who announces on facebook, gets blocked.

Its been nearly 3 months and I'm gonna try my first baby mingling soon, and going to stay with my v pregnant friend in Dec (and am DREADING it, and feeling guilty about that too)

But sod it, if I cry at someone, tough. I'll cry. And they can like it or lump it.
Selfish, guilty, resentful, bitter, angry. They're not nice feelings, but I'm owning up to it (anonymously and online of course)

It is like you are in my head! Today I go to see my ob about beng put on more fertility drugs and I am dreading seeing all the women who are just so happy and already pregnant in the office. I hate feeling like this! I feel it doesn't make me a good person, but I can't help it! I just preay for these feelings to go away.

I saw a pregnant woman at the park last night. She was so pretty and glowing. It really hurt me so I imagined that like me, she has suffered 2 previous miscarriages and now she finally has that term baby growing inside her. It made me feel better. I hope to be big fat preggo someday soon and others may look at me in pain and envy, but they will have no idea what I went thru to get to that place...

Its totally natural to feel that way, as you can see for all of these posts. The unfortunate thing is that only us, who have been through a loss, understand what I call the "pregnant person phobia." Its hard to explain to family and friends who cant understand why you are not jumping with joy upon hearing their happy news. We are all part of this club that we did not sign up for, but at least we have each other to lean on, vent to, and tell each other that its ok. I'm thinking about you all.

One thing I've learned in my "old age", is that most of the people around you are suffering in some way. On the outside, lots of people have it together ... but truth is, life is hard. Life is hard for people with children, life is hard for people who can't have children, life is hard for people who've lost babies, people who've lost grown children ...

Its true that people don't understand losing a child until they face that adversity themselves, but everyone knows suffering. The scriptures say we won't be given more than we can handle ... and most people around you have just about all they can handle.

I feel exactly the same way--everywhere I go there are pregnant women and babies. The other morning I was up very early watching tv and there's a television program on TLC with a family where the woman has given birth to 18 children!!! I got soooo mad! I though I only want one! Why should she have 18! It's not fair!!!!