Military Families Support Group

If your husband has always wanted to join, then you should support your husbands decision. It is very brave that he is wanting to protect his country and give his family a future. It is hard to be a military wife, but it is not impossible. We do live daily with the fear that something will happen, but staying busy and trusting that everything will be o.k. helps a lot. I wish you the best of luck in whatever you do, but I think you should really support your husband, not let fears and concerns stand in the way of what he wants too.

You have to make this decision together! Write it all down. Good with the bad and compare, TOGETHER. If you don't let him just because of your fears, he'll be resentful. If he does it against your wishes you'll resent him and it will all lead to disaster.

As the one serving(Im a woman) I will tell you that yes it is hard at times. The seperations and fears are hard on relationships but the benefits are even better. If he has always had the desire then he will eventually do it, whether it's now or later won't matter. I didn't join until I was 30 years old!

The military is a HUGE community. It is a way of life. It is a brotherhood that takes care of it's own. Millions of people live today, everyday as spouses of the military. Try not to concentrate on the what if's, and concentrate on what you and him should do. Think about your future, your childs future, the benefits of bieng in the military and the pride that goes along with being in the military.

Please just be open and listen to him and make him address your fears also. Make this decision together.

I wish you the best. Ask me ANYTHING you want. I will help you if I can.

I love being a military family. Sure it has it's cons and pros- just like anything else. I mean, in all reality, anyone could be struck by a car and killed on any given day. So, with that said, you shouldn't let the fear of losing him stand in the way. You will adjust to it and adapt to the lifestyle just as we all have had to do. Good luck with your decision!

im joining the army, so i see things from your husband's point of view. i know where he's coming from. but your kid is very young and i think you should tell him to delay signing up. you can't make him give it up altogether, but maybe get him to wait until your kid's a bit older. remind him that he has a family to look after, and that his decisions don't just affect him they affect everybody. as for the financial trouble...i have no clue. i've never been good with money.

I agree very strongly that you need to make this decision together. My husband and I always sit down together and make a list of the pros and the cons and then weigh it out and see what would be best and make the decision together. My husband has been in the army for almost 12 years now. He joined before we met and it was something I chose to take part in by marrying him. He is very passionate about it. There are some days where I hate it and think of every possible excuse for getting out, but then I remember the days when being in the military has been such a blessing. We are a big family. There are a lot of ups and downs but there are groups and functions set up to help for that very purpose. With the economy the way it is and will be for a while, there is financial and job security. There is health security with free medical and extremely low cost dental. I know it is scary. There is the very real threat of losing your loved one, but the chances of losing him are just as great as losing him everyday that he walks out the front door. My husband has been deployed once already and is looking at going again soon. I'm not going to lie, it is hard but it is also worth it. Sit with him and talk about it. Be honest with him. My husband and I have an agreement. If I ever get to the point to where I can't do it anymore and I am done, then he will get out. Maybe that could be a deal breaker??

hi:) i just joined this group because hubby is enlisting in the AF. im pregnant with our first baby, and when he heads out to basic, he will miss birth, then he has tech school, and will miss the first part of our sons first year! Its killin me, but he has a sense to protect and provide, and the AF is what he has always wanted to do. he had a son in hs, so he stayed for him, but now, this is the best option.

i just wanted to say that i hear you! Im very supportive of my husband though, because i know that what he wants to do means alot to him, and this is his dream, but he & i made this decision together! Hope you guys get thru this!! what branch is he wanting to enlist?