What is Meth Addiction
Methamphetamine (also referred to as methylamphetamine or desoxyephedrine) is a synthetic stimulant drug used for both medicinal and recreational purposes (see Legal issues). Metha...
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mother in-law is meth addict, let her see baby??
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i am really torn here guys. my wife's mother is severely addicted to meth and has been for over 10 years. i knew this from the beginning of my wife and i's relationship so i'm not placing any blame and it's something i accept. over the last 2 years me and my wife have been together i've seen her mother go from good to bad, to horrible. from what i've been told the whole family has tried to get her to clean up and offered help but it's gone nowhere. she's recently moved away from her husband to live with god knows who. every other week my wife will get a call from her but thats about it. my step-daughter is 7 and notices something is wrong with grandma and cries cause she hasn't seen her in months. at our wedding 2 months ago my wife was in tears because her mom held up the wedding for an hour and showed up so high my family noticed. this was after my wife already had given her notice 2 months prior to show up sober or don't show up at all.
so here's where i need advice. we are due to have a baby in a few months and even though it hasn't been said, we know my wife's mom is going to show up to the hospital and possible try to come by the house afterwards. i don't agree that she should even be aloud to see the baby until she is clean. there are many reasons for my feeling this way. it's very disrespectful in my eyes for her to come see my new daughter while she's high, it's dangerous, we don't even know where she's living or what kinds of chemicals she may be around, it's not fair in my eyes that she can hurt all these people around her that love her and then show up for the good parts of life and act like everything is fine. my mind is set on telling her that she's not welcome to see the baby or us for that matter until she gets clean, but my wife still feels like thats her mom and she owes it to her. i just need some opinions and i'm wondering when enough is enough and when is it time to let go? like i said, this has been ongoing for over ten years and she has turned her back to everyone's offers to help. thank you in advance Posted on 04/07/09, 12:04 am |
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For alot of people getting clean doesn't even cross their mind until they have reached a low....so no matter how hard her family is trying untill she is ready to quit it is all wasted on her....so no i dont think she should be around your baby untill she is clean...and who knows maybe that will be what brings her to her senses...and if you have to go get a restraining order do it and enforce it....there is nothing your child is losing by not knowing their drug addict grandmother... 
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Wow! That is really a hard choice. I would suggest two things. One to set strict boundaries with yout MIL. Explaining she is not aloud to be around your daughter if she is high period. Then meet in a place where you can easily leave or have her retrained if she shows up high. Forcing her to learn if she wants to see her granddaughter she must be sober.
However, I feel you have already tried a version of this by asking her not to come to your wedding high, which she didn't respect and being it was your wedding you couldn't really leave. So, I feel she has already had a chance at the first option. The second option would be to get a restraining order that states she is only able to be in the area of your daughter when she is sober. hopefully, this will be a bottom point for her to realize she needs to clean up. Whatever you decide to do. Stick with it. Addicts are "takers" and she will walk all over you if you budge just a little.
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Boundries are a start.She must be accountable for her actions as an addict.You cannot consider letting her around her grandchild until she begins the journey of recovery.If she refuses to budge then take the bounderies to the next step.Change phone numbers,change locks,get a restraining order etc.And get counceling for your family.This isn't easy and it isn't nice.But it may be necessary...for your Child,your wife and your family.But most importantly..for your mother in law.It may help to save her.
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