"Menopause Without Medicine" by Linda Ojeda, Ph.d.
This book has actual charts to show HOW MUCH of WHICH vitamins and minerals are needed by us menopausal women, as well as sources for the above (all the other
books say "take extra
calcium," but don't tell you how many mgs/IUs to take). The author also states that while she offers natural solutions for dealing with our condition and its symptoms, she is not "antidoctor, antimedicine, and antihormone", that everyone is different, and if holistic approaches don't help and/if symptoms are too severe, medical treatment should be considered. (Other
books I have are either FOR HRT and medical treatment OR for the holistic remedies only.)
She also includes exercises and provides diet changes.
I started my customized vitamin supplement regime last week when I got this book and it was the FIRST week in months where I didn't spend at least one day in bed
crying and moaning.
Will update you on further developments as I continue the methods suggested.
hmmmmmmm...thank you for the info!! 
