Menopause Support Group

God love you Sir. I am happy that there is another man out there like my husband who has the sense to know that he can be helpful and not just join the rank of many men who think its all in our heads. My best advise to you is just to validate whatever side of her you encounter. If she wants to talk... listen and hug. if she wants to cry, hold her and pass the kleenex. If she wants to kill you.... duck!
LOL, but seriously, speaking for myself, for the most part we just want to know that we are not crazy. The mood swings come out of no where, the night sweats, hot flashes... make us feel as though aliens have taken over our bodies. Its like being outside of yourself looking at someone you dont even know. I am one of the few blessed enough to have my husband supportive. He would go to the moon and back for me, and I must admit, reading some of the posts of my friends here... sometimes i feel guilty.... incredibly loved... but guilt. Let her know you love her... and strap on some skates and hold on for the ride of your life. If its any consilation... most times we dont understand any of this any more than you guys do. Best of luck to you, and feel free to email me ifyou have specific questions you dont see answers to here. Sadly, too many men are afraid to ask the questions...

Jason you sound like a great guy. Another thing that I would add is sometimes she's just going to need space. By that I mean time alone. Don't feel like she is rejecting you, sometimes we get moody. Another thing is, don't make fun of her too much. A little joke now and then is ok. Go for long walks with her and hold her hand when she is having a lot of anxiety, that will help clear her head out you will both be healthier.

Good luck

Periwinkle

Well if you check my profile you will see I have my problems so if she could stick with me I will stick with her.

Welcome sir! Not many testosterone-clads dare tread where us estrogen-challenged hang! So, is your lady feeling moody, depressed, fatigued, bloaty,anxious, low-libidoed, etc.? Dont take any of it personally. They call it the change but sometimes I feel like I'm morphing into a she-demon! serious.Us gals are all doing the waiting game hoping it will just pass like a fart. Just be understanding and it will surely come back to you. Hugs.

All of the above, except I don't know if it's under libidoed or just weird libidoed!

under or weird... that is both us women. One day up than down, happy, sad, angry, homicidal... horney...than its touch me and die... all in all, a rollercoaster ride we can not get off. I am blessed my husband has a sense of humor... is a must in our house... time alone for her is manditory... but dont be surprised if it turns and she is like a lost puppy who wont leave your side. We say all this to prepare you... encourage you... and keep us all laughing as well. Senior moments aside, as far as I can tell, we are all very loving women even when we want to kill you. I hear after 10yrs or so it subsides... I figure after a bit we will all be too old to care! lol and the ones left standing really do love us. Might I suggest you show her to this site... perhaps our group or one like us... speaking only for me... I find it helpful to give my husband my password here so he can access my journal. I keep it private from the site, but sometimes i can vent only to " the journal" and he knows at anytime he can see just what is going on in my head and I have found it to be very helpful. Even though you men have to deal with this as we go through it... its hard for you to really understand just how complicated it can become. We feel powerless and sometimes helpless, and again speaking only for myself... I have always been the strong woman... so I fail miserabley at helpless. Always keep the lines of communication open... and DAILY remember to tell her that you love her. Even when we know it.... we really do need to hear the words.

Your a good egg! Wish my hubby would take intrest!

WELCOME JASON,
what a great guy but this is not he MENOPAUSE FORUM!

you might get more guys over there! & of coarse there are lots of "US" here, that have gone thru it or know women who have!!

but more actualy ? answered over there!
Does she also have FIBRO!??


http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Men...

Hmmm, I think you're a "cougar" chaser dude.....