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I kind of did the opposite while my periods were irregular then lost interest when they stopped completely, a very small dose of testosterone can help with that. I think it's really just an individual thing since women have talked about having no libido and others having a hyper libido for a couple of years. lol

My libido was gone for awhile, but now its back. I think mine is due to working out , kegals and eatting meca chocolate bars.

had hyster in 1999 been on hormone since I am 61 , not that crazy about sex anymore but will do for hubby sake , he is 62 and acts like a 32 yr old . his sex drive is in high gear ...I hope that will slow down soon...

I also had a hyst (in 2006) which deep-sixed my sex drive and response. I had a heightened libido for a few years before that although I wasn't in peri - was still having normal 28 day cycles. I miss just feeling sexual not to mention the loss of feeling intimate, with or without sex. But the hyst also aged me overnight which only amplifies this loss.

I have been going through menopause for 14yrs. Since I hit 40. I have no sex drive at all and very rarely care. I guess it would help if I liked my husband's company more. Oh, well.

1 year after total hyst, I still have my moderately high sex drive. The other day my husband asked me if I was "up for it" and my quick affirmative made him laugh and say "hey, you gotta play a little harder to get" My orgasms are still very powerful and I don't miss the uterine contractions. As a matter of fact, I have what I call "phantom uterine contractions" There is no formula that I know of except that I love and am in love with my husband. I find him extremely sexy and most of my friends think he is hot. : 0

I am still intact, but I think if you have well developed muscles in your pelvic region, and in your lower back, it might be very possible to still have great orgasms even with a hysterectomy. I do very well, both sex drive and orgasms are still there for me (though I did have a very hyper drive as I began peri...)

F of mine claims what you have, hotmom. She climaxed better once her uterus was gone bc its tumors interfered with nerve endings etc working as they should (that was her theory).

I do Kegels too & I feel that they help alot.

I think ADs can muffle many things, emotions etc & prob orgasms bc they have an emotional component too.

Has your Dr suggested taking a "drug holiday" BiPolar, just a couple of days & see if your sexual response returns??

Maybe something to talk over with him/her... good luck, DaisyC

I'm also in perimenopause. My sex drive is there, but there is less sensation there, so my ability to have an orgasm is harder to achieve. I'm not on any prescription meds. Wondering if I'm broken :(

I think that peri and meno bring so many symptoms like insomnia and hot flashes, that it makes it harder to get in the mood. Before my hyst, I was always bloated and crampy. I had heavy periods that came whenever they felt like it and I felt crappy. Who wants to have sex when you feel like that. Now, I don't have any of these issues except the hot flashes, so I am much happier to be intimate. I feel like I have a lot of time to make up for. : )

I had uterine orgasms before my hyst (didn't realize that's what they were though). Then for one year or so post-op, I had occasional "pelvic orgasms" (which must have been "phantom uterine orgasms" kind of like an amputee has sensations for a period of time). Those have never returned. Retaining the cervix is supposed to preserve some sexual function - don't know if that's true. But at least it would ensure that the vagina isn't shortened too much which can be a problem for some couples. Now THAT would be beyond devastating!