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I am not sure how he is going to be able to tell when you are feeling weak? That is sort of putting him in the position of having to read your mind/gauge your feelings. Then if you do fall, you can too easily blame him for tempting you by doing it at the wrong time for you.
Taking responsibility for your own actions is the only way to go here. Personally I could not live with someone who smoked weed and this is after 12 years! I would be so triggered that I would either be in a bad mood over it or eventually most likely would succumb.
Take care of yourself.

Well, I wouldn't expect him to read my mind I would tell him that I'm not comfortable with him smoking that day. I just don't want to forbid him from ever smoking in the house. I like to think that he would be okay with me being honest with my feelings. I do need to take care of myself, though. Grrr. Maybe I should move.

It is a dilemma for sure. I don't know what to tell you, but no I would not personally be able to hack that situation.

If you are determined to be quit it would make no difference that your partner still smokes. Relationships arent always plain sailing and compromise is necessary. I have quit weed but my partner is very considerate and goes and smokes in the garden, he has recently cut back to weekends only so it's not a "biggie" If you partner is a considerate person I am sure that he will find a way to smoke so that you can get secure in your quit.i.e. not see it or smell it, which will make it easier for you.

Imagine if the situation were reversed? Not an easy task! I don't think this is going to be easy - a real test to see if your roomie is an "addict". Well at least you are making baby steps towards looking clearer at your situation. I know how hard it can be to get out of an ingrained situation, it can keep us from making the positive changes we want to. Good luck!

I am a recovering marijuana addict and I go to concerts when I want to see live bands, and I am able to be around others in the crowd with pot and not do what I used to do. Ultimately for some people the desire to quit and stay quit comes from in and is supported by other recovering marijuana addicts, so someone lighting up no longer becomes a necessity for us to join in. Just walk away and look for another roomie. Sometimes our own use can escalate when we hang around with other users.

Thanks guys, that's helpful food for thought.

Just tell him you would appreciate his respecting your boundaries around it and that you would prefer he not smoke in your house, when you are feeling weak, etc.
If he is respectful, not an addict, and cares for you, he will comply. If he doesn't, then get rid of him. Peg