What is Marijuana Addiction
The drug cannabis, commonly known as marijuana, is produced from parts of the cannabis plant, primarily the cured flowers and gathered trichomes of the female plant. The major acti...
Join Now
|
what do i do now?
|
Watch this |
| View More Posts Ignore |
After a painful 25yr journey of denial, my husband has finally conceded to seek help for his addiction to marijuana. i feel responsible in the sense that in my attempt to put the lid tightly on our problems because of the stigma it carries, i have been the silent victim who has passively enabled him to carry on this way. i have hidden this from our 2 children who are now 21yrs and 22 yrs of age. When i caught him red handed smoking on the patio this past saturday, he continued to lie that it was tobacco and not weed. The frequency and ease with which he lies is troubling. 5 yrs ago when i caught him, he replaced the weed in the rolled up joint which i had taken away from him and kept in my purse with sand particles. Anyone who would go to that extent to cover up a problem must be in dire need of help. He tried to convince me that it was sand and that he wanted to see my reaction if i saw a rolled up joint in his possession. i need help. i need to talk to somebody. should i tell the children now, or should i continue to hide this from them. i cannot tell my friends and my family. i feel trapped and sad. please help me.
Posted on 09/08/09, 05:09 pm |
| 4 Replies | Add Your Advice |
| View More Posts Ignore |
First, may I ask what form of "help" he's seeking? Do you think he may be taking this step just to 'shut you up'? ---For any chance of success, HE must want it for himself. And remember, none of this is YOUR fault.
But in the meantime, you MUST talk to someone. I suggest Al-Anon. Loved1 will probably weigh in here 
|
|
|
|
||
| View More Posts Ignore |
I'd be surprised if your kids don't already know.....
Here's my $.02. Get some joint (no pun intended) counselling. I don't know the extent of your hubby's use. If he wants help, it is available to him. I'd suggest you go through some of the older threads on this forum. You may start to understand things from the addicts' perspective. You might also want to learn all you can about co-dependency....
|
|
|
|
||
| View More Posts Ignore |
thanks very much. will do just that
|
|
|
|
||
| View More Posts Ignore |
There are support groups for addicts www.marijuana-anonymous.org and for loved ones of addicts. The Al Anon program of recovery is for anyone affected by a loved ones alcoholism / addiction, and the literature including pamphlets and books and the fellowship are a life changing program if you're willing to utilize it one day at a time.
We who care and are caught up in the addition of a loved one are the ones who suffer the most. You can't make him stop, and you are getting sick trying to control his using. I know I've been there and I know it's painful. You're not alone. Best to get help for yourself and learn to set boundaries instead of trying to control his using - he may or may not stop and in the meantime your life is in your hands.
|
|
|
|
||
| Add Your Advice |
