Marijuana Addiction & Recovery Support Group

I don't want to discourage you, but what would you like to know?

You can't make him do what he doesn't want to do, but if he lives under your roof, YOU have the right to make the rules, and you should INSIST he not bring drugs into your home. Try to keep calm and don't make any threats you're not willing to follow through on.

I actually started at about his age for the same reason - it helped me sleep. In hindsight I think loneliness and insecurity played a part as well. As usual, borgnine is right on the money with his advice, it IS your home, your rules. But I also think it's important to remember not to alienate him or jeapordise your relationship in any way. He is an adult, and will do what he wants to do, but there's nothing like having strong family bonds and a soft place to fall. I was lucky to have loving parents, and I know it got me through the tougher times (even if I didn't listen to them, I knew they always loved me).

It's a tough one. Now I'm a mum, I completely understand your worry - I would be worried too, but as parents we need to let our kids learn their own lessons, and be there to support them and always - to love them. But of course - make your rules if you need to.

All the best. My heart goes out to you. And don't hesitate to ask anything you need to know. This site is full of people with first hand experience and good info.

Well it sounds like you are living with a marijuana abuser who sees no issue with it.

Al Anon is for anyone affected by alcoholism / addiction in a loved one, past or present. What may happen if you get support for yourself who are shocked at his casual attitude and can't think from someplace like Al Anon or Nar Anon is you can learn that we're powerless over alcohol / drugs and our lives are unmanageable, and we learn to place our power where we have it - over our own lives. When you learn what is addiction and what is enabling then you may start to take less responsibility for him so that he may be able to suffer the consequences of his actions and actually realize he may have a problem. Or it may take a long time. Or he may never quit. Either way the program for you is to check out the codependency group here, learn all you can about marijuana addiction FOR YOURSELF, not to change him, at www.marijuana-anonymous.org The pamphlet for the loved one there applies if the addict is in treatment. Is he an addict? Only he can answer that for sure. If he's hiding it from you it isn't a good sign. Excuses galore is what addicts use to justify and rationalize their use, and I believe addiction is a disease, it is progressive, and it affects the family, especially those who care the most.