Male Infertility Support Group

I am terribly sorry about this. I can understand why all these thoughts are going through your head. We were told to give it 6 mos in between SA. My husband had one that said he was extremely low, and then just recently we found out his numbers were in the normal. And to be completely honest...who would not be terrified about doing a sec test right away I'm not sure alot of men would be able to even ejaculate under those circumstances with that on his mind. We have been trying to get pregnant for 21/2 years with no luck. Believe me do not give up anything is possible.

So sorry you are feeling this way. My DH and i have been trying for 7 years to get pregnant. He has 3 from a previous marriage had a vasectomy, we reversed, it re-occluded and now are back to no sperm. It has been a roller coaster ride to say the least.

I remember what my DH felt like when he got the results. Just remember you and your wife are in this together. Fertility problems do occur...unfortunately we on this website have to go through this. However it does not change the fact that you guys love each other. The last thing i wanted to hear from my DH was "maybe you should find someone else who can get you pregnant". I married him for better or worse...there are many uses in technology today. Look into mesa/tisa( not sure if i'm spelling it right). It is where they extract sperm from where it is produced.

Don't give up yet...sometimes the road is crooked but still ends up where you want to be. :)

I'm sorry you are going through this. My husband and I started trying last October and soon after found out that my husband had low sperm count. My suggestion is to go to a really good urogoligst that specializes in fertility only. Did the urologist that you went to have any suggestions for you? Did they test your hormones or do an ultrasound? Sometimes there may be blockages preventing the sperm from coming through. Also, there are advanced procedures these days that they can do along with IVF. I believe its called TESE. You may want to ask your drs about these alternatives and if they are appropriate for you. Don't give up.

I'm sorry you are feeling this way and having to go through this. I do know a guy who had a son and then a few years later when tried for a second child with the same woman he was found to be sterile. So it might be that this is just what they call secondary infertility and your first wife didn't cheat on you.
My husband and I have been trying for 2-1/2 years and his sperm count is low they think because of low testosterone. He is taking Clomid right now to see if that helps, we are waiting to see though. I work in a gynecology department and went to a talk by a male infertility specialist. This was before my DH's first SA and he said something that really comforted me. Even if the SA shows no sperm, they can sometimes go in surgically and find some. I know that doesn't sound appealing and might be really expensive if your insurance doesn't cover it, but it sounds like it is very important for you to be able to give your wife a child. It might be worth asking about it. And btw, my husband feels less like a man as well because of all this, but I definitely don't see it that way!! Good luck in all you do! Keep us updated.

im so sorry about this!!! but dont give up... im sure your wife loves you and she will be with you no matter what.. she wants so be a mother yes but she also wants to have your babies.. is not only about having them its about all it takes.. try to fiind an specialist and try everythign possible... GOD has the last word and we never know whats gonna happen.. you guys have to work together on this and make a good team.. dont feel like failure because you are not.. we have to deal with infertility and its not nice but it doesnt mean we are worthless you are a great person and everything will work out for you.. dont tell your wife she can leave and fid somebody else because you will hurt your self ans hurt her feelings too... i will pray for you...

my husband 's sperm go into his bladder, not out.... called retrograde ejac.... i see you are from boston? did you see Dr. oats by any chance???? he is fantastic. I have a friend who's husband had no sperm.... he has klienfelgers syndrom, i may have spelled that wrong..... he is also tall, and has really big feet. i guess both are a sign of this syndrome.... they did a needle biopsy and took pre-sperm from his testes and matured them, they got 3 good ones, she had twins with her first ivf, then did a frozen embie cycle 4 years later and got preg. with 1 baby.... it is amazing what can be done.... and as we all know, any shmuck can produce a baby, it takes a real man to raise one and be a good husband and to make dreams come true..... igood luck to you

oh and i wills til be nice to you even with you being a yankees fan!

yep saw dr oates. going to see him tomorrow actualyl to go over the bloodwork. I am hoping and praying that everything is ok

I am so sorry you are going through this. If you read my journal you can see that we have severe male infertilty as well. We are going to use donor sperm now but we hope that imprvmt from DH 's surgery we can have a baby from my DH's sperm as well. It can take up to 18 months for sperm to improve!!! SO hang in there and please don't feel at fault or less of a man. You are both in this together!! Remember??