What is Lung Cancer
Lung cancer is a cancer of the lungs characterized by the presence of malignant tumours. Most commonly it is bronchogenic carcinoma (about 90%). Lung cancer is one of the most leth...
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I feel like a morbid vulture waiting for my Dad to die. My brain tells me that he is in the last days of his life. I see, feel, and hear, his body getting weaker and weaker. My heart breaks and all I can do is tell him over and over that I will get him a drink of water, or, 'if you don't eat daddy, you will get sicker'. That's a lie...he can't get any sicker...But, he still hangs on. My Mom is fighting so hard to make him eat and to make him drink. Hospice tells her that he may not be hungry or thirsty and she fires back, "I won't let him starve to death". He's suffered so many indignities. He was always a very private man. He never let us see him in his underwear when we were kids and now, I have to change his diapers. He just looks away and bears it. I pray every day that he will be spared any more pain or confusion. It's hard to be 'Daddy's girl' at age 55 or the big sister, when all I want to do is curl up next to him and have him comfort me. How do you cope with the feeling of utter, total helplessness???
Posted on 02/28/08, 05:02 pm |
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I wish I had that answer Lady. My dad is also dieing of lung cancer and it is the hardest thing to watch the man who has always been the strongest man in the world to me fade. Cancer just SUCKS. I am so sorry you have to deal with it. No one should have to.
I can tell you that I do crawl into bed with my dad (yes, it looks silly) and we comfort eachother. My dads cancer nurse told me something really wise one day she found me crying the hallway. She said "Once your dad is gone you have forever to greive him, but while he is still here you have to make the most of it." I hope that helps you. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your daddy. From one daddys girl to another, I feel your pain. 
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i as well am dealing with my father he has lung cancer and thursday my mother had to put him in hospice because she couldnt take care of him anymore... we had to sedate him into a coma.. he only has 2 days at the most and i understand how you feel! We are in the same boat. you have to be strong and spend time with him and make the best out of it or you may regret it. my mother thinks my father can hear us when he is in his coma so i try to talk to him but its so hard i just break down and start crying... stay strong and you will be in my thoughts
p.s my father was also very private, but that shouldnt matter now, he just needs to know that you love him and your there for him!
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