Long Distance Relationships (LDR) Support Group
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My question is for all you LDR'S out there. ...we have been apart for 2 years now. A little over 500 miles apart. We do see each other back and forth about every 3-4 months if we can.
Do any of you feel that your partner treats you different than others when he talks to them in person? I feel he treats me rude and talks down to me. I treat him like I would anyone else. I don't like to argue and try to be happy when I get to finally talk to him. When I ask him something, he gets mad or says I am analyzing everything. He seems to be so unhappy and angry so much. I hate it when he is so rude to me. I feel we are trying to be together one day, but he kills it when he treats me so different than others. He is anger management classes, but I don't see any difference.
We seem to do better in person, but for now we're not and would still like the fun side of him like others are allowed to see.
I really would like for us to make this work so we can have our happiness, but I want to be treated like two people that love each other and is working on getting together. Respect. Fun, laughing, romantic, sexy, like things should. Am I asking to much? Has anyone else or is anyone else going through this now? I don't want to be one of the break up stories.
Would love to hear you in put on this.
Thanks!
Do any of you feel that your partner treats you different than others when he talks to them in person? I feel he treats me rude and talks down to me. I treat him like I would anyone else. I don't like to argue and try to be happy when I get to finally talk to him. When I ask him something, he gets mad or says I am analyzing everything. He seems to be so unhappy and angry so much. I hate it when he is so rude to me. I feel we are trying to be together one day, but he kills it when he treats me so different than others. He is anger management classes, but I don't see any difference.
We seem to do better in person, but for now we're not and would still like the fun side of him like others are allowed to see.
I really would like for us to make this work so we can have our happiness, but I want to be treated like two people that love each other and is working on getting together. Respect. Fun, laughing, romantic, sexy, like things should. Am I asking to much? Has anyone else or is anyone else going through this now? I don't want to be one of the break up stories.
Would love to hear you in put on this.
Thanks!
This is an issue that came between my boyfriend and I big time. We broke up and have recently decided to give things another shot. I always felt like he didn't treat me how I needed to be treated...never rude or anything like that...but just not making me a priority like I needed him to.
My only advice is to not put up with it. It just isn't worth it. If he isn't willing to shape up and compromise with you, there is someone out there that will treat you the way you deserve to be treated.
You are not asking too much, a partner should never be rude or talk down to the other. I would make it very clear how you expect to be treated, let him know that how he talks to you and treats you is not acceptable and don't tolerate it. You can't make him change, he'll only change if he wants to change and if he doesn't treat you how you deserve to be treated, you need to decide if that's the kind of relationship you want to stay in the rest of your life or not.
It seems that I am trying so hard to keep us together and happy. I don't like the distance either but for now this is what it is. I just feel that I am giving so much more and putting him and this relationship first..more than he does. I do love him. But I want to be talked to like he loves me and can't wait to see me. Instead of rude etc.
I just don't want to give up. 2 years is a long time.
Thanks again for responding.
Do you guys think, by all these actions, that deep down he wants to end this LDR? And just can't do it? Or want to hurt me? I just don't understand if he wants to be with me so bad, then why the rudeness, and not fight like crazy for this? I feel everyday, I am fighting for us not to argue and just have fun when we can. I know we can, when I go to see him, but then he,s not the same when I go back home. Any ideas? Is it me?
RADIATION LEVELS WILL INCREASE...
men don't change, if he is showing you loving kindness by being rude and insensitive...i think that might be an alarm that many women/men ignore.
Don't be afraid to let this one go. My God, there are so many wonderful men out there who will treat you and let's face it, everyone with loving kindness. It is a sign of maturity.
I'm sorry things aren't that great..but everyone is a lesson to get us to what we really want for our hearts.
I wish you many blessings and hope if you can communicate your feelings to him, that maybe he could change?....