Loneliness Support Group

It is funny you posted this on the same day my 16 year old son and I have discussed the same thing. He finds that people are so focused on material status that it bugs him to no end. If you don't wear the right fashions and have the latest gadgets your a freak.

We discussed how people have this need to feel better than others by acquiring wealth or beauty. How people need to feel they are prettier or wealthier than others to make their lives have meaning.

When the pretty girl looses her beauty through an accident, her friends drift away. They don't want to be reminded that beauty is only fleeting. When the rich become poor over night all their friends that still have their wealth start to come up with excuses not to visit anymore until they only whisper about the person who lost it all. All of this acquire wealth and beauty in the end amounts to nothing as it is all superficial. When it is gone those that still have it do not want people around them who would remind them it can all be lost in an instant.

Society is shallow. You are completely correct but there are people out there who are not. They may not be many in number but they don't care how much money you have or what you look like on the outside. All they care about is the person within. They are society's saviors.

I was like you too and when young hung around in the wrong crowds. I don't know where they are now and that is probably a good thing as those people were toxic to me as they most likely where to you.

We cannot change society but we can control how it makes us feel. I feel pity for the thin pretty women who look at me with disgust as they don't realise that beauty is fleeting. They don't see their real ugliness shining through as they are blind to the truth. I feel sorry for the rich. Yes sorry as they always have to keep up with the Jones' and know that their friends are ever so close to stabbing them in the back. The rich are always one bad financial decision away from being poor and know their friends and life would all change. That is a lot of pressure to keep up pretenses. I couldn't imagine living a life not knowing if people liked you for who you are or just your money. It sounds lonelier than my life now and I'm poor.

The grass isn't greener on the other side of the fence. It just has different problems.

@nandou, we can change society. You and I are only individuals, but society is made up of individuals. Capitalism is the problem. Not just capitalism, but the offshoots that come with it.
I'm not on a mission to change the way ppl think, but the minute you start thinking YOU can't change something that's wrong, you might as well give up.
History has many pioneers-MLK, JFK, Lincoln, Mandela, Aung San Sui Kyi and so on. Ppl never believed they could change what they did-but they did it.

I use to be model material. When I'd get stopped by a cop for speeding or running a light. they would not tag me. They would just say, "Don't do it again". Now that I'm overweight, they still don't tag me, and they still say, not to do it again, but "now" they run my license. I dont think that's fair.

EXCELLENTLY put Cmt.

good topic...I see my own worldly problems as my own making...I got into the drug and alcohol crowd to be with the in crowd...then I became the outcast when I brokedown and was hospitalized with insanity from drugs....today I am recovering...as for money I had more than my share in seeking the almighty $$$ but I never reached my own goals...my family seemed to be the one with the wealth...but the wealth as usual was a thought not reality....I grew up with millionaire friends and neighbors...I wasn't one but thought I was better than others....I was not....and I destroyed my financial life with debts and such...declaired bankruptcy...yep I am emotionally, morally, physically and mentally as well as financially bankrupt.....

but as I am now I am in recovery....my goal is to live without harming others today....not to gain more than should be mine...but dammit I want it all still...give me that winning powerball # or MegaMillions # .....still am sick human being....as for looks? I never looked at myself as a handsome person...got fat too...so who cares? I do look at the opposite sex with eyes full of candy desires...but truthfully those with the candy seem to attract all the bees....which was said in first post....pretty gets other pretties and it can vanish in heartbeat....

nice topic

It's a great topic - I've learned much about this past year or so through my various experiences. I straddle both worlds - I am not beautiful nor rich, nor am I unattractive and poor - I am somewhere right in the middle in both looks and finances - but I have the ability to interact in those circles without being intimidated. I stand for who I am and what I believe in, and that seems to serve me best. People who spend time with me and wish to pursue a friendship know what they are getting, and those who choose not to, chose that for their own reasons as well. What I have discovered, is that I have spent a lot of time making assumptions about people that are beautiful and wealthy, in turn making me the judgmental one, and not them. Today, at a little restaurant downtown, a woman came up and sat in the table next to us and ordered a glass of wine. She was texting on her phone, relatively attractive, had her little purebred dog with her, and I made some immediate assumptions that she was probably some wealthy snob. We got to talking, I think about the dog to start, and it turned out she is a working student not even from the area, and she was very friendly! We talked for over 1/2 hour. It reminded me, much as I don't want to be judged for not being those things, we should not necessarily judge those that are those things. It is annoying that wealth and looks overshadow so much of what is real, but often I believe that is because we let it. Perhaps they gravitate towards each other because others are too busy making assumptions about them or being intimidated by them, that there's no chance to connect. I am not saying that there is not a level of pretentiousness there, just that we should find out if it really is there before we assume it is there. We might just be surprised. I personally am tired of just assuming someone won't like me or we cannot connect because I perceive them to be of a different status. That has been something I have been working on this year.

I don't prejudge pretty or rich ppl. That could be easily seen as jealousy-not that I've never felt jealous. Everythings gone a bit far though with all these girls getting boob jobs, lip jobs blah blah, guys with their flash cars and so on. It wouldn't be so bad if all this stuff finished at school, but we're talking about grown ppl here.
The media has alot to answer for. They direct the sheeple where they want them to go. Tell them what's in fashion etc.
It's a sad situation