Loneliness Support Group

Sometimes my mother complains I don't call her or love her as much as my father. I tend to think of my mother as strong and independent. I have this fixed image of her as always there and don't worry too much because I think she is ok. I have tried to make more of an effort. I see my father more because he calls often and comes over to visit all the time. My mother doesn't come over like he does. She also seems to favor my sis' husband clearly over mine. My hubby says hi and quickly vanishes because he is afraid to say the wrong thing. I don't know if u live close by but if u do you may want to visit more. Grown kids don't come around not because we don't love our parents but because we think of them as being there forever and tend to think mom is doing better without us. I'm sorry u are feeling lonely. I hope u feel better and forget the bad thoughts.

I think she is right even though im pretty young and still live at home i think of my mum as someone really indpendent. Its like i need her more than she needs me and without me in the house she wouldnt have to clean up after me, worry ect. Like i would be doing her a favour if i moved out.
Just visit her every now and then, go to lunch together or anything you would both enjoy doing. Hope this helps and that you will feel better soon! :)

You'll be ok!! Your hormones are out of whack bc of menopause. However your feelings are legitimate and you have every right to express them. There is nothing wrong with being a mom that her loves her kids...you just have to remember your kids are probably at a more selfish stage of life than you and are not intentionally trying to hurt you. Their thought process is probably 'mom will always be there..' a lot of us are like that. Try not to take it too personal. You're not alone & You really will be ok. (((Hugs)))

thanks for the advice from a young persons point of view i guess i miss being needed like when they were young and this pre menopause doesnt help