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How do I get over someone I know doesn't want me?
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I work with a guy who last year made a few flirtatious moves. We began texting and talking alot and then things moved on a bit form there and I would often go and see him and we would go for days out, sometimes we would just sit on his sofa talking and drinking tea. He is my best friend in the world and I love him for that. However just as I thought things were moving on and we were getting really close an ex girlfriend came on the scene and he dropped me like a hot stone. He is still with her but I just keep wondering what would things have been like if she hadn't come on the scene?
I never get to see him anymore other than at work and although he keeps tellnig me that he loves me as a friend and he can't imagine me not being in his life it just kills me that I'm not good enough and he doesn't want me. How do I get through this knowing that no-one wants me, especially the one person I actually trusted enough to let get close and then got hurt? Posted on 10/24/09, 09:10 am |
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I have been in your position and holding on just drives people further away. As hard as it may be, you need to distance from him. Talk to him only when he approaches you. Act like you too busy with interesting things (even if its an act). But more importantly, try to figure out why you are afraid to let go. Are you shy?
Feel free to write me. I know how you feel and I want you to know that you are not alone. And if he can drop you like a hot stone he's not a good friend or a good guy. Sounds like he strings you along to stroke his ego, which is mean and selfish. 
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Yep I don't doubt he really cared for you and had a genuine interest in you but the interst he has in his ex is stronger. As hard as it is you just need to move on but in a classy way, no drama. Just simply give him less and less time and wean yourself of him completely. He's just not "the one" AND there is def better wating for you. I know its easier said than done but time will heal your hurt and there will be someone better than him..trust me it always works out that way ;) Stay strong. (((Hugs)))
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I would cut off all contact. I know that is hard with working together, and I don't know how much you really have to see him at work.
He dumped you like a hot potato and even if things end up not working out with his g/f, would you really want him back again so he could pull the same sh*t again. I know how hard it is. I was dumped last December for the second time by my X who made all kinds of promises. I know how much it hurts. It's been 11 months and I still have days where it feels like yesterday, but the pain eventually lessens. But you really need to have zero contact. Otherwise you will hang in limbo and that is an extreme emotional rollercoaster ride.
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Well I don't think u can blame him for not knowing your hidden intentions. Obviously he wants you to be around but just not in the way you were hoping. Mystie is right tho, cut off all contact, hell manifesting a little reason to hate him will help too. Well thats what I have done before anyways....it helped.
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