Life After Divorce Support Group

I know of a 50% chance first hand it can work. Most people who leave, ache and want their spouse back and takes a long time to let the feelings of starting over creep in. Most things in life that cause divorce are, FIXABLE. But you must, must, MUST have two willing participants!!! Good luck with your decisions, assuming this question is based on your own situation.

I tried and found out he was seeing another woman, whom he told he wanted to be his "next" wife. It ended very badly and although I have been officially divorced since Feb, it feels like the first day we split.

I believe these things should be considered before the divorce is actually final. I've heard of people remarrying the person they divorced. I think my ex believes that he and I will get back together someday. The truth of the matter is that I'm enjoying being who I am without having something feel I'm doing a poor job at being who I am.

Divorce is a time when a marriage ends and a new life begins. How often do we get a chance at starting over again? Ask yourslf why you would consider putting the marriage back together. Is it because you're not optomisitc about life on your own? Is it because of fear or because you don't know what to do? We've all had to do it and I have to tell you it hurts in the begining but the water out here is actually fine.

Thank you everyone, this means a lot to have a place to come to to vent about such a matter. See I am in a rrlationship now and at times its tuff, I feel like the newness has wore off and all I can see is our problems. They are little problems that can be fixed and I see that now but it's the missing the ex husband that gets to me every single day. My ex husband is in a relationship now and he said he isn't happy and wants to get out of it and he wants his family back. I let him play on my emotions and I can't find a way to make him stop. I think I could be really happy with who I am with if I could find a way to get over my ex... Any idea's with that one? I have 2 children of my own and my boy friend has 2 of his own, going from 2 kids to 4 has been a struggle for me not only emotional but financialy as well. Damn, why does life have to be so hard??? So here is what I am saying, how do I get over my ex so I can have a beautiful life with my boy friend and how can I stop letting our little problems build up to be huge problems?

Unfortunately, the route you're taking towards happiness is not fair to the person you're with. it would have been nice if you were over your ex before you came into this persons life. Everyone deserves a shot and he never stood a chance because you weren't ready for the relationship.

There is a way to keep your ex from playing on your emotions. You don't wear them on your sleeve. The right thing for you to do is figure out who you are with out him and proceed to being that person. As long as he knows how to get to you he will and it will always leave you at a disadvantage.

Why isn't his new relationship working? There are 2 sides to every story. I wonder what his gf would say the problem is? Whatever broke you two up should be re-evaluated seriously. Stop looking at this with your heart and look at it with your mind.