What is Life-After-Divorce
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I am stuck at home today due to a snow storm.....yup....Colorado!!! LOL! Gotta love the snow days, yet it creates too much time to think.
I have been meeting new people....it's been fun......but I do get scared of getting hurt. I tend to keep my heart close to me, and I keep some barriers up until I can trust that person (s). How many of you do this? Did the divorce make you scared to invest in another? Are you more guarded or cautious? I have noticed that this is my biggest change. I am more reserved these days until I feel trust from someone else. I guess I am feeling like I have to protect myself.....hmmmm..... Posted on 10/29/09, 05:10 pm |
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The thing about trust is that it has to be earned. Going into self protect mode after you allowed your heart to full trust another who turned around and broke that trust almost causes us to question our judgement. I think that time can help us come to terms with things and slowly allow us to trust in ourself/judgement and another. I look forward to the day when my heart is ready to say it is time again. There are no guarantees that this may not happen again, but I know I will have done all that I needed to do in myself to accept the outcome. 
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I have ventured out a few times but ducked back in because both times the men wanted more than I can possibly give at this time in my life. I do feel afraid that I will be pulled into something that won't last so I do hold back. In fact I am back in therapy to deal with this.
I do hope in time that I will grow and not be afraid to give a par of me again to someone that is right for me. Hope we all find that place again.
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I am just afraid of getting involved with a person that can't show his REAL side in the beginning and much later the real person comes out.
That is scary! I don't understand why dating and marriage should be different in the way we treat each other. I've been divorced 23 yrs (single). Still afraid, protected, cautious.
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