What is Life-After-Divorce
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Hey there!!
It's been a while since I have been posting. Once in-a-while I will read some posts and say a few words...but lately I have been busy. I have been busy with my new job and my new home. It hasn't been all roses...it's been hard at times and at times it does get really lonely. It's lonely moving on. I get a pit in my stomach and at night it is hard sleeping alone...still.... And It gets scary with the bills I have to pay; and I feel unsure about how I will make it. Then again.....I am also happy. I am finally away from the ex. I can go buy a new bed spread...without a say.....which I did! I bought a new shower curtain that I liked.....and pots and pans....that I wanted.... I don't have to ask anyone's opinion. I have had funny moments too. This past week my fire alarm decided to test itself.....I blew a fuse in the living room, I almost fell down the stairs (that one was a bit scary really). And the dog is having fun barking at all the neighbors! I have also met some of the neighbors.... I have a nosey one.....(gee there's one in every place!! ) LOL! Moving on can be hard at times; but I am glad that I am on the other end of the tunnel. I need to create my life and not live in the past. I still have memories; and that's all they are........it's time to really say goodbye to the ex......I am thankful to be away from him. This is a second chance! I am also thankful for this place.....it has helped me. I hope it helps others. I will read and post from time to time........I haven't completely left yet...... Posted on 10/27/09, 10:10 pm |
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The greatest part is you can do anything you want, ano one asks why. I have actually been single for 11 years, except for a whirlwind try to fuck me over that made me finally decide it was time for me. I've been sober for a year last Oct.3, so my feelings are raw. I'm a big puddle of wuss sometimes, and I hate that.
Oh, and by the way. I refuse to grow up. I'm on disability now, and I'm having the childhood I never had. So there. Na-Na-Na-Ni. 
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You know things can and are moving on when life begins to take hold again. Your days beign to be filled with other things then sadness. Things are different for sure but in some ways the different is good. I am trying to get into a new home myself and waiting an answer from a long sale, I mean short sale. I am looking forward to moving on in that part of my life. To set up a place I can truly call home, rather there sharing a building with people in an apartment comlex. Sounds like you have come to a good place. As far as those bills and stuff, you will manage just fine. Just enjoy all that you have accomplished.
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Hi gayleh, nice to see one of your posts and I have to agree with you about how good it feels to move on. I have been able to stay on a budget(impossible with the ex he liked to spend)pay bills and stash a little away for emergencies. Being able to do this has really made me feel secure and in control of my own destiny.
I am getting ready to paint and freshen up my home after finally cleaning out all the clutter the ex collected and left. It has been a long, hard journey but now that I am reaping some positive things from my hard work I truly feel as if I am accomplishing something. Also, I too rarely think of the ex only when my daughter mentions him or has contact with him which is rare (his choice). So things are looking good for me as well.
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I am also cleaning out things as well. I am selling the wedding dress....and getting rid of clothing that no longer suits my style! It's all a good thing! I am glad to see others moving on as well!!
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gayleh I am glad you are moving on. I wish I was closer to that process. court again for contempt but I m not going my lawyer is gonna go. I do not want to see the ex. I wanna say just igve me the money you owe me so I dont have to think about you again.
I too went through many things..threw away teddy bears, cloths and shreaded pic of him it was nifce. I even looked at him and said he is not that cute and the new guy in my life is way way cuter than him. I wanna move on and get my own place. I am living with my mom and my animals and it is hard. Sometiems i feel so young again. I am appreciated of my mom she has helped me so much. I hope one day I can ge tmy finances back and take the plung of getting my own place. And like you i be scared of the bills. I am happy someone is happy about moving on. Please keep posing.
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