Life After Divorce Support Group

1st of all I am sorry that you must go through this and hopefully this site will provide you with the support you seek. When one separates and divorces the love that you have for this person does not go away with the signing of the papers for many of us. So I get that you still have feelins for this person, and I even get that you still sleep with him at times. But you also stated that he is in a 'committed' relationship with someone else. This sounds as if he has moved on and in my opinion if you continue the physical contact until he at some point decides to stop it you are prolonging your healing process. Keep your contact amicable for discussing issues concerning the children.

If you continue the physical aspect you are reopening the door for the pain because you are hoping for more of a relationship then he is able to give to you at this point. The roller coaster feelings are normal and in time will subside. I have been where you are at and in the end he married the ow.

This is a tough journey but you have to do what you need to do to move on and make a life for yourself. You also need real life support so please try and find a divorce recovery group in your area, many churches offer these groups, and you may want to consider counseling to help you through this. I wish you the best.

I absolutely agree with Gwinnie. Keep in contact in a civil, amicable way for the children's needs, but other than that, NO CONTACT. Truly...it sounds harsh, but you absolutely must create distance for yourself physically and emotionally for you to truly heal and move on. Otherwise you are permanently staying in a prison of emotional distress of your own making. You can't move forward if you're still looking backwards. I know how hard it is...I was divorced in 2009 and it was absolute agony. I never ever thought I would move on. It nearly killed me. Three years later...I've moved on. Establishing healthy boundaries is a must. I know its hard. Believe me....I know. I've been there.

Thank you for your support. I ordered a book this morning about moving on. A self help book. I really hope it helps. Last night I logged on to Facebook to find that somehow although I had deleted him as a Facebook friend, I could somehow see a picture of him and this woman at the beach. He's posted to her that she's gorgeous. I was married to this man for seventeen years and he never once said those words to me. It gave me the strength to do what I need I think. I deserve better that this pain. I've made the decision to ignore his calls and texts. To stop playing these games and get on with my life. Whatever that means. I found a local support group I just need to bring myself to go to it. I'm hoping for strength because I am sure going to need it! Thank you for listening.

I know it is hard, but it is going to get easier. It's really the best thing to cut all physical ties. You have to have contact of some sort because of the kids but just do your best to keep it to that so you can move on and heal.