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I'm not sure of the seriousness of your infraction, but keep saying sorry and give her time. Ask her what you can do to make it up to her.

Also keep in mind that it is not your problem that she is mad at you. You have apologised and you can only show by your actions that you will truly not do this again. So she's mad. Let her be mad at you. It makes her feel better. If it didn't, she wouldn't be angry. Some people just need to stay mad for a while.

Just hang on and give her some time.

Pm me if you need to vent or anything.

Hearts,
Owl

UH, oh.

Trust is a complicated and mysteriously foggy thing. I tis really easy to break and really, really hard to re-gain.
I would a) stop apologizing there is only so much you can apologize before beginning to sound insincere. b) giver her some space to work things out in her mind.

If what you said was that bad, she had every right to be mad and you need to let her be mad. If you are still together, she is willing to work it out, but you need to let her come to grips with it and then come to you to discuss it. I would tell her that you want to talk about it, but when she is ready. Until then you will give her space. Let he know in no uncertain terms that you are not backing off out of indifference or lack of caring, in fact quite the opposite, you are standing back so she can think about where she wants to go.
Sometimes we mistake someone backing off as losing interest so make sure she knows that's not the case.
I don't know there's any way to "make it up to her" but you can just show her by your daily actions. Don't expect to re-gain her trust quickly though.

Let us know what comes of it.

Suzy

Trust is fragile, and takes time and sometimes it doesnt even depend on the seriousness of what the 'break' was about. I had done something similar at one time. Where i needed to apologize and I took this step. I read a book called, 5 ways of saying your sorry.
One of the things for me was very helpful, and it also builds up the broken wall of trust.
"paraphrasing' the incident, by stating the problem and admitting to your actions. Validating her feelings and her hurt. And voicing how it all felt for the both of you.
then ask her....how would you like me to mend this broken trust.
it worked for me! let me know

hope things work out,
mschar

Thanks everyone. We're meeting up this afternoon to talk. I'm nervous. I'm trying to keep all your pieces of advice in mind. Wish me luck! Will update you guys on what happens.