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hi my name's leah, i'm 17, and just joined so still learning how to operate everything here, anyway i have a girlfriend in penselvainia and i live in colorado so it's been quite difficult, not only are we having a same sex relationship, but it's a long distance relationship. my father's homophobic and i just came out to my mom about a month ago... anyway i got a letter from my gf today and my mom was aking about in and i started blushing and smiling and told her all about karyl and how amazing she is, showed off her pics and was shocked that this was the one time my mom was supportive of this, my heart melted. then i tell my babygirl and we start arguing!!! she ignores me, tells me everythings always about me and that she doesn't know what she does wrong when she starts talking to me like ''yes ma'am, no ma'am'' in this btchy tone and tells me i treat her like her parents treat her (whitch honestly don't treat her right at all) i feel like i died... i don't even know what to say or do right now i feel so broken, we've been fighting non stop for days now and i don't want to call it quits but idk how much more of myself i can give or how much effort she want's to put in... i do love her, but i never pictured ''happily ever aftter'' like this... some advice and support is much needed. thanks.
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Well, first off. That is so exciting that your mom was supportive! Yay!
As for the gf, well. It may not be you, she may be fighting with her parents and just feels safer taking it out on you right now. I think you need to tell her that you don't know why you are fighting, you don't want to fight with her, you care whats going on. Ask her specifically if her parents have done something to upset her. Since you aren't nearby, communication becomes so much more important. Take one phone call and don't say one word about you, just ask her questions, ask her to explain/describe her day moment by moment. Really make it about her. Insecurity is paramount at your age and she may just need to be reassured that you are interested in her. 
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I think maybe you should step bak and let this blow over. Being so far puts a strain on a new relationship but that could also make her upset as well. She will coe around she just needs some space and time to get over it. It is just like fighting at home. You need alone time and a big bucket of Ben And Jerry's to clear your mind. Hope this helps.
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Wait...you are fighting because you told your girlfriend that your mom was supportive? Huh?
I agree with the others that you need to give your gf some time. But am experienced with LDRs and you can't wait too long. I have never been in any fight that wasn't the cause of a misunderstanding. Especially when I love the person I am fighting with. So what is it that you or her have misunderstood? You two write letters, right? Maybe you should right one telling her how you feel about this situation and how much you miss not fighting with her. The advantage to letters is that the recipient can read the letter over and over and formulate a response, instead of you two getting mad over the phone...just a thought. Hearts, Owl
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