Lesbian Relationship Challenges Support Group

People can be very cruel (hug) They can be cruel to people with different colored eyes, different clothes, with handicaps, the elderly, the less fortunate, the rich, the famous, teachers, doctors, dogs, cats, different cultures, different politics,...etc.

But! There are many many more wonderful, beautiful, accepting, compassionate caring people out there :O) Thank God!!!! We ALL need to focus on this...not the negative. The more attention we pay to negative people, the more we validate them.

Name calling will happen throughout life. If you allow people to rip your feelings apart because of what labels/words/names fly out of their ignorant mouth, you are acknowledging them.

Acknowledge and Answer Only To Your Birth Given Name, Sister.

Bat,

Sorry you had to go through this...it sucks it does. Teri's right, there are going to be many people who will call names, but there are also going to be many, more who will not.

My gf came home one day, having had her oil changed at Jiffy Lube. She was upset because the guy had written on the report, that the oil plug gasket was missing. Of course, I was not happy...in light of the fact that the car was 30 days old brand new out of the showroom and on many occassions I had suggested she not take the car too snot nosed teens working at those places. But she did, and now I was incensed and looked under the car, sure enough, bird brain had forgotten to put the gasket back on and she had a leak.

Drove over there, and walked in looking for the manager but instead, the little boy who had done the job came out, must have seen the car pulling back in. I showed him the paper, and he agreed it was him who had written that. So off I went, explaining to zipperhead that the car was actually less than 30 days old, and that gasket was on when he touched it. He argued, i insisted he get the manager, he called me a dyke. The waiting room was full, it fell into instance silence.

I leaned over the counter in his face and calmly responded, "Wow, you're a genious, how many fingers and toes did it take you to figure that one out?" The room burst into laughter and applause, he turned beat red, the manager ran out knowing something had happened.

My gf went from being upset that i was confronting him, to breath cutting laughter at his response to my comment, which was sheer embarrasment. Know that there will be people who will do such things in your life and your best offense, is a snappy defense. His intent was to embarrass me and shut me up. Too bad for him he ran into big mouth bre.

Take heart knowing more people will not do that and the first time is always the shocker and most upsetting. You are a good person, don't listen to that shit.

Names are names and labels are labels. I personally feel that there is not a name in the book that someone could call me that would bother me. I'm just happy being me! If you can find a way to let the names and labels roll off your back, it will make you life so much easier! I know that is much easier said than done, but if that is something you can do, I think it will help! Hope that helps! feel free to message me anytime!

Hugs. Hugs. Hugs. Hugs. Hugs.

There is nothing wrong with being gay. The LGBT community and its straight allies are some of the nicest people around. You have to do what makes you happy. Picture yourself with the woman of your dreams. Go to a pride parade in your area. Just be yourself and ignore the hateful comments people say. People are often rude because they don't understand the details, so you just have to let their insults fade away in your mind. I was volunteering at the local hospital a few weeks ago and I walked by a couple and his wife in the admitting department. The husband said to his wife (in Spanish) that I "looked like a typical lesbian." Little did they know that I understand some Spanish from learning it in school. I just smiled at them and they stopped right away. I didn't let it get me down, and you shouldn't either. If your situation happens again, just stay calm and walk away knowing that some people are just plain ignorant and out of line. End of story. I wish you all the best and I would be happy to chat if you would like some more advice!
Nicole :)

God i've been called all kinds of derogatory names and it just makes me laugh tbh, nothing anyone has said has ever bothered me in the slightest, I pity the people who make comments like that actually, they are so bitter & twisted inside they abuse complete strangers... I usually find laughing at them with one of those 'really??' looks works.

People can be cruel. i am sorry you are going through this. I agree with Terilyn. I wish you all the best. Let your true colors shine through always.

hope you feel better. I was called a maricmacha. means dike in spanish once while on my way to catch the bus.
its hard ... funny how people get label.. im spanish . get call a spick. im gay get call a dike.. i have deppression . am called a loony... have some vitligio.. lost of pigmentation in some areas of my body.. get call a freak.. you are yourself unique.. imagene you are a great piece of a special puzzle.. and people want to make you fit in their own world puzzle.. try to smack you in .. but they cant.. and guess what you are to special to get crunch up in a world that is not yours... anyhow hope this helps.. good luck .. hug

Remind them that faggots are to light fires, and they should not be upset when they get burned! Oh to hell with name callers. They are not worth your attention. Walk away and have a milkshake - it is way more important than they are!