Klinefelter's Syndrome Support Group

I'm a 43 yr old male who was not diagnosed untilI was 34. Shortly after I got married, my wife and I were unsuccessful at having children. I had no other children, so I thought it was just careful planning. Unfortunately this was not the easy answer. Naturally when we visited the Dr., they wanted me to get tested first. I was sent to the endencrolagist (sp?), and I was diagones br Dr. Nolton form the UW-WI, that I had Klinefelter Syndrome and was diagnosed with 47XXY. Not sure what that really meant, I quickly began research and realized alot about me and my past. The Dr. wanted me to be on Testosterone, but I was still in denial, as I only came as I wanted to have children. Later on I tried the gel and the patch, and stopped after a while as I didn't like the side efffects and how it made me feel wierd and all.

So here I am now. I am not sure how I am suppose to feel. I'm not sure if I belong to either sex. I am now experiencing hot flashes, moodiness, etc and other symptoms associated with a woman's menapause systems. I feel worthless as a man because I can't have children, which is the basic main function of a man. Without this fuction I'm not sure what my purpose here is. I have sought answers on other websites and thought I would try here without being judges negatively, but maybe for someone to listen and offer suggestions, other than get the patch.

I know I could, try the patch, but don't see the purpose as I still won't be able to have children of my own. I know there must be others out ther elikeme feeling the same way.

I also see more andmore parents on here, after their children are being diagnosed earlier and wondering how they are findingout so early in life.

I am the dad of two boys (7 and 3) thorugh other means, which did not involve me.
Posted on 10/21/09, 11:10 pm