Jealousy Support Group

I understand how you're feeling... I have a similar story. I wish there was some magic pill, or words that I could say that would make it better, but there's not. I deal with this same issue on a daily basis. and it's a stuggle everyday. I do write in a journal, and I think that helps. Sometimes I can go back and read what I've written and see how silly my thinking is sometimes. I can usually look back on most situations and realize I was overreacting, but in the moment I just can't see it. All I can say is hang in there, and try your best to put the negative thoughts out of your mind.

no wonder your suffering from jealousy, every one you had a relationship with let you down.
we all feel like that, that we want our men to love and lust for us only, well they can love and want us only but they cant promise to find only us attractive, there are alot of good looking pple out there. Just think how it would be, if in the whole world there was only 1 person that we would ever be attracted too, we would spend our whole lives looking for them!
Ive also been jealous for the longest time, ive come to the point where i feel its part of my nature but that doesn't mean i cant work on getting it to a more livable situation, i want to rule it rather than it rules me.
well, as for his ex things were not that great because she wouldnt have cheated on him would she?

i totally understand what you all are saying. ever since i have been with my husband i have been sooo jealous. i felt it starting in the relationship i had before him, once i started spending more time with the guy and being in more social situations with him. i started thinking "wait, he is with me but quite obviously attracted to other people as well" It was a long distance thing that didn't work out and he ended up with another girl that i had met with him while i was visiting him!
When i got together with my husband, i was fully on board the jealousy train. I got suspicious and paranoid even before he ever did anything that could possibly make me wonder and now more than ever he does things that irritate me, like flirting with my best friend all the time. But the other night we were at their house and there were other friends there and i actually had a great time the ENTIRE evening. He was still doing his same old thing but i was able to look past it or around it or whatever and reason with myself that it was okay. Normally, I'm like you, Lady bug, i can't ever control myself in the present situation but that night it was like a lightbulb went on in my mind and i stepped back from the situation and saw that i COULD find a way out of it.
It helps that my friend knows how i feel about it and she definitely seems to respect these feelings more than my husband (who knows too) because she often times would redirect the attention to me and not just play back with him. It was the best and most drama free night we have had with them probably since we have known them.
It can happen for you too, bellagigi. You have the ability to make yourself feel stronger, just like you have been able to make yourself feel jealous. I'm not saying i am "cured" i will probably continue to struggle with this for a long time, but now i feel like i have more control.