What is Jealousy
Jealousy typically refers to the thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that occur when a person believes a valued relationship is being threatened by a rival. This rival may or may not...
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I live in a fourplex and we just had a new neighbor move in.
she's a woman and young woman! I already went through this everytime someone moves here I just want to leave. Now we have one apartment empty and 2 apartments with single women in them. I hate it and I hate being here becuase I get jealous. My husband who just married me in October doesn't really do anything for me to be jealous of except that rooster stance. If anyone knows what i mean by that. I don't want to live here anymore now again. I finally came to terms with the first woman and the one who moved out was always tell him this tell him that talking about my man - she made me sick and she's the one i refused to act on jealousy about just becuase most of the time I handle it okay becusse i am 49 years old and he's going to be 54. But I still go through this until I see for a while that nothing is going to happen. The girl - I haven't even seen her myself. But i don't want either one of us to see her. She lives over us and the other one lives across from us. Don't men rent apartments. I prayed for old people. but noooo. my feet get tingly just writing this i get so upset. i don't know why i'm sharing this but maybe to say i'm human too. my man is very good to me and spends a lot of time reassuring me. i love him for that. but sometimes it doesn't make it FEEL any easier - but it does seem to come in time - it just feels so fearful right now. i can't wait till this passes. hugs, mary Posted on 11/02/09, 11:11 pm |
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My boyfriend and I have been looking for a house, and everywhere we look I ask about the neighbours. My worst fear would be moving in next to some hot chick. So I know what you are going through, and it will pass.
I think sometimes we forget that there is only a very very small percentage of truly exceptionally beautiful women. And in his eyes, you are definitely one of them. We seem to think that every woman everywhere is gorgeous...when most are just "normal" people with imperfections. We build these Pamela Anderson moments up in our head, and than we see the neighbor (or co-worker, or whoever) and we're like "oh...thats it?" and we stress over nothing. So take a deep breath, you have nothing to worry about. You're newlyweds! He loves you! Enjoy your time with him, things will get easier 
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Hello Mary,
I understand everything your saying, and I am here to give you a hug and try to comfort you. Honestly its all in our heads. If 2 single men moved in the apt, you wouldnt care right?Because you love your husband and nothing will get in the way of that. But the fact its a woman, is different, even though your husband doesnt even care, like you wouldnt care if it was a man.... We are both insecure. I read your letter and well, its almost as if I wrote it... We gotta talk it out of our heads, build some self-esteem!!!!!! Your worrying about this for nothing, and in a week or two when you read it again, you will probably laugh :)
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Thank you both - it's nice to know that i'm not alone and you are right this will pass - thank you for your replies. Hugs, Mary
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Mary, I have been in exactly your situation. My fiance and I lived in an apartment complex and every time a new person moved in I hoped it was an elderly couple. I was so happy when we decided to move to a cabin in the middle of the woods, a mile off the road, with the only neighbors being some old men who belong to a fishing club. Fortunately, it was fiance's decision to move, so I wasn't responsible for it--but I was happy with the outcome! Now if I could just figure out how to remove all other women from the universe--you know those that he has met, and those that he may meet--I'd be fine! (I'm kidding!) :)
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Simille, your a kick! lol - I hear ya! We are an older couple but for some reason it doesn't change those feelings i have but i must say that so far i do react to them calmer at this age. He has a desire to move higher up the mountain and therefore more alone in a house. I'm looking forward to it as soon as we can. Lol - you post made me laugh - something in common for us both - lol - hugs, mary
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