Jealousy Support Group

it's getting close to christmas and yet again my partners mum is "expecting" us to make the long trip to exchange gifts.but after what happened last time we went earlier this year(my partner continually hugging a 14 year old distant relative) in fact she hugged him more times she's hugged me in a year.anyway to ut it simply i don't want to go through all of that again.i tried asking her to cut down on the hugging and how it made me feel but she said they had a special relationship and a bond. so its not going to change.
we was suppose to be going in november but we couldn't afford to ,her mum keeps ringing asking if we are going to see them bcause my partner told her we might go in december which annoyed me as she never discussed it with me.but at thi moment in time i cannot cope with it all.i'm waiting for a scan on my gallbladder and don't know if anything is found whether i will need a op.(gallstones i think) i keep telling my partner we can't make any plans but she just doesn't want to listen.
yesterday i popped outside and came back in to find her on the phone to her mum talking about whether we was going in dec or not no doubt her mum had been asking yet again.so i told her just to tell her mum no because of the scan etc but she just ignored me.
not only that i get in alot of pain and i can't sit in a car for 5/6 hours for the journey there.but i guess my partner is putting her family first yet again.
but apart from my gallbladder we are having a big issue with our relationship which needs sorting out.
do you think 'm being selfish if i say no i'm not going to her parents(she won't go without me).because i will be in pain for traveling so long and i want our relationship sorting out .
why i'm worried is last year i injured my back a few weeks before we was suppose to go to her parents to exchange gifts.her mum was ringing everyday to see if my back was better so we could go over thee.which in turn my partner started trying to pressure me.so i went but was in agony.
so i am right to stand firm this time despite the pressure from her mum and her?.
Posted on 10/29/09, 05:10 am