What is Jealousy
Jealousy typically refers to the thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that occur when a person believes a valued relationship is being threatened by a rival. This rival may or may not...
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yeah my jealousy/paranoia is destroying my relationship, about two weeks ago i found out my fiance was talking to a guy who we had discussed in the past and we agreed she wouldn't talk to again, but like i said 2 weeks ago i find these emails from him, with him saying how much he loves her etc etc, then out of the blue after she deletes him someone else appears on her ds friends list, with just her as a friend, she tells me its not him, and with all my heart i wanna believe her, so we can move on, but to many things around it point to the same person, i wanna drop the paranoia and pray it doesn't happen again, but because of the paranoia ive made myself distant from her and i haven't meant to, does anybody have any tips or tricks to help deal with this sort of thing, i don't wanna loose her, but i fear i may already have
desperate Leah Posted on 10/13/09, 03:10 pm |
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When you have seen the emails from him saying how much he loves her, do you know where the basis is coming from? How does the conversation even lead to that point? Does she say anything back to him?
It does worry me that if he says things like that to her, and she wants to continue to talk to him, why would she want to? This may not be something you want to ignore because it sounds a little flaky but I think I need more to this story. 
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the first time round she was telling him that she loved him, they even planned for him to come over to this country and live, all in all a new life, im still jealous/paranoid, but i cant do anything about it
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Thats the 1 thing i hate about snooping through their phone or whatever, when you find something its upsetting, but when you dont find something you think they must be hiding it well. The only advice i can give you is to talk to her about your fears, and hopefully in time you'll start to believe in her, after all actions speak louder than words. Making yourself distant is self preservation, its good you recognise you've done this, as i did it without realising it for over 10 years, thats why i'm in the mess i'm in. Talk and talk some more.
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i had something similar with my partner.this guy who she chatted to on yahoo messenger would ring her.i didn't get really suspect until he rang once while i was there and she told him to ring back after 6pm.the time i use to leave her place.she said she told him that cos she knew he wouldn't bother to ring back.so i worked out her password to her yahoo messenger left a offline message (as if from her) just saying "leave me alone" what a shock when he replied " i thought we had something good going" but she denied knowing what he was on about and continued with her staory he was a transvestite and she was getting him hooked up with a male friend of hers.
yet she never made contact with this other male friend of hers so how could she be heling him to hook up hmmmm.nyway that was way back in 2001.but only the other night i brought the subject up and she denied even having a yahoo account said she chatted to him on msn? like i always say u need a good memory to be a liar. the only thing i can suggest in your situation is to ask your g/f to let you see any emails she recieves from this "new" friend.or to get a key logger i've heard they are quite good.
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