Jealousy Support Group

i have the feeling that it could lead to that...

i don't know what you mean exactly

but sometimes i feel that people that are possessive, insecure and jealous are that way because it is in their heart.

however, i have my share of dealing with insecurity and jealousy in my own heart. it tears me up inside. but i dont' cheat. i don't even look at other men, sometimes i am tempted but i do my best to not give in. because i know how i would feel if the tables were turned.

i know men that have been extrememly possessive of their woman, and it is the man that turns to cheating, not the woman.....

In my opinion, absolutely. I never physically cheated, but my counsellor called it an "emotional affair". I turned to chat rooms 2 years ago when I was tired of being so paranoid of my husband travelling for work all the time over the past 10 years. It took my marriage down a road I never ever imagined that I would be responsible for.

Certainly possible! Also if someone cheats then they could be more likely to get jealous cos they know just how easy it can happen! Add in the fact that someone who cheats could get defensive and accuse their partner and...............well, i dont really suppose there are any rules for what way these things will go!

They do say that when someone is jealous in possessive they are only reacting that way because they know they are doing it.

However, this isn't always the case. I agree with Beautyfor, I have jealousy problems but it's not because I am cheating, it does come from the heart. So much love for someone. So much fear of losing them. That kind of thing.

I don't know if I completely understand. Do you mean, for example, because I am jealous of my husband, that he might cheat on me? Or because I am jealous of my husband, that I might cheat on him?

I agree with the second part. Because at the beginning of our marriage, I cheated on him. Not because I don't completely love him, but because of my deep insecurities. Obviously, a lot of females (and males) who are jealous have security issues. They may cheat for the need to feel desire, or to feel loved. Not to say it is right.. that was definitely one of the biggest mistakes of my life, but the psychology supports it.

i have never cheated on my partner but, i suppose i could be accused of having an emotional affair....
my partner cheated once...,
obviously i became very insecure when he did this, he couldnt even remember what he did because he was so drunk..
he had cheated in all previous relationships .
he now thinks i am very secretive..he questions everymove i make on the internet, he wants to know why i private msg people instead of just hugging them.
after i found out he cheated i did start talking to a coupe of guys on a certain application on a certain other social website..
nothing untoward really..it was a game anyway. and i had seen my SOhad commented on some womans picture on this game too! and lets just say it was a bit of an insult to me!
his paranoia stems from his realisation of just how easy it is to cheat because he has done it!
i dont think i could do it though, no matter how jealous i became..if he cheats again, i probably will though..but i will have to leave him afterwards, i couldnt stay ina relationship if i had done that.