Interracial Relationships Support Group

Okay Ive been with my boyfriend for about ten months. I am white he's black. We grew up in the same city went to the same schools. Never knew each other but turns out we had mutual friends. I have never dated outside of my race before this. I knew how my family felt about it, and had witnessed my entire family disown two cousins ( Sisters) for dating black men and getting pregnant when I was young. ( Side note I believe they are both happily married to those men still 13 years later). My Mother raised me to see past color, but apparently she was better able to deal with that in theory than reality. My Father is proud to be a hillbilly and just cant handle the thought of his daughter being treated however he thinks black men treat white women. ( Im pretty sure he thinks ill get prego,cheated on and desiese ridden) .
Well needless to say when i met my boyfriend i was a little suprised, He's very handsome, educated, polite, intellegent, triple black belt, and a pilot finishing up school. Did I mention he's compleatly crazy about me and my wierdness? Well he is. When we started dating my father whos deep belief that interracial relationships is well known to myself my family and all his friends, was in the process of buying me a house. I wasnt sure how my relationship with this man would go, we had just started seeing each other, so i was leaning twords keeping it hidden. No good. Plan B I told my father a week before he signed the final paperwork. Really i didnt want them to regret making a huge financial decision on my behalf, I wasnt about to get blamed for that. So I told my father, gave him some money that was owed and the key to my parents house back. My mother knew before him and begged me not to tell. ( Dont do this honey!!) So that day I watched my father cry and knew that i had lost him permenently. Did I mention that dispite thier faults i was very close to them ? Well I was and i came over and helped them out all the time. I Am a good daughter. Well Now We have been together for ten months and the ony person who will speak to me is my sister who lives 15 hours away. I found out yesterday that my grandmother on my mothers side can never forgive me and please dont call here anymore. I can honestly say that the way i feel about getting put out like this ( however unexepectedly) has been effecting my relationship. He must really love me because i have been a mess about this whole thing.
Posted on 11/05/09, 09:11 am