Interracial Relationships Support Group

Perhaps you don't see many Asian males with white females because of where you live. I know it is much more common to find the reverse situation with Asian females and white husbands but belive me when I tell you that there are many white women who find Asian males attractive or just like men and do not care what race or color they are.
If you find someone you are really attracted to then ask her out, take that chance. YOu may get shot down a time or two but if you don't try you'll never know and how sad would that be?

You should not feel strange if you like white women, if you are attracted to caucasian women, then go ahead an marry one.

This is a very prominent subject for me, as I live in a city with many Asian/Caucasian couples, and I too am another "statistical" white guy with an Asian girlfriend. I understand your feeling weird about your attraction to another race, because I felt the same way. Not because I felt I should be with a Caucasian woman, but because of the stereotype and all the assumptions thereby automatically attributed to me(and others).

I must say right off, that I am in no way any sort of expert on any of this. But I do have a very deductive nature and always observe behavior when I'm out on the town, so I have developed my own OPINIONS that I strive to keep 100% positive and helpful.

Frustration will always work against you in these matters(especially if you allow others to see it), but even worse is if you allow your frustration to poison you with envy(it only feeds the frustration). You are a miracle of life and perfectly fine the way you are, never forget that. If something goes against this belief, then you have either misinterpreted it, or its downright false to begin with.

Your worth as a man does not correlate to your success in dating. This is a falsity that continues to ravage so many people's perception of themselves. I just hate to see people suffer from this as I did, for far too long.

The reality is that you'll never know why a girl "rejects" you, even if she outright says a reason. It could be false, it could be this reason, it could be that reason... you could sit and wonder about it for as long as you want, but it is such a waste of mental energy that will get you nowhere but a self-destructive down. Save your mental energy for lifting yourself up, remind yourself that you have a LOT to offer. Believe it or not, you have an innate power to make someone happy, and cure loneliness.... what else on this earth do you know that can do that? That is only the base, the default attributes we all share, I can only imagine everything else you can add on top of it. Whatever you do, don't buy in to your own mental terrorism.

In dating, rejection is just a part of the game, there is no one that can play it without experiencing rejection. They must overcome rejection after rejection until finding a positive match, just as you will. Sometimes it will seem as though every woman you approach rejects you, but each and every rejection is one more overcame obstacle closer to the girl of your dreams.

I know the world seems not to care, and people can be mean, and push buttons that are very very sensitive. It sucks out there sometimes, but its all just a ride anyway.

Hang in there man, and don't worry about a thing!

I often wonder this same thing. I am a white woman and have been dating my Korean American boyfriend for over 2 years. I have only met one other Asian man/white woman couple! From my experience, Asian males, especially Korean, are the pride of their family and they are STRONGLY encouraged to marry Korean women. SO you being adopted and raised by white parents gives you the free pass to date white women!! haha, seriously though, good luck and keep an open mind :)

i am a white female, and i am madly in love with a wonderful Chinese man. i love him with all my heart. my relationship is the only one i know of like this...but i am living proof that it can happen. but when he went back to his home in China this summer his father made it clear that he didnt accept me...so he had to break up with me.....i am still very sad. i cannot accept this. but it can happen. and i pray my relationship will work out in the end. i hope this helps.

I think reply #5 is an excellent example of why you do not see as many couples where the man is Asian and the women is white. Their parents will not approve and unlike western culture how the parents feel has a much deeper impact on relationships.
My daughter dated a Koren guy and he was totaly crazy about her but he also knew his mom would not approve and after she died he broke up with my daughter, he just could not do anything that would have hurt his mom if she were still alive.

i agree that it has something to do with where you live. here in Hawaii there are plenty of asian male and... --well actually, here everyone is mixed up. most people are a mix of breeds, but the most common asian race is Japanese. second is Korean, and then Filipino. the rest is a large mixture of Polynesians (Samoan, Tahitian, Tongan, Hawaiian, etc) who are also mixed breeds. i myself are half Indonesian have Caucasian, or is what i would call: Eurasian, which is pretty common here, too. my bf is half caucasian half Iranian. but like i said, it's all mixed up here.

i guess Hawaii would be an exception to the rest of the US, tho, due to our location. well, i'm not really sure how it is there on the mainland. i was stationed in VA for 4 years but i never did pay any attn to what couples there were around.

my mom is caucasian and my dad was Indonesian. they met in PA while in college. actually, now that i think of it, most of my dad's siblings married white women. mix breed children are the most beautiful ones the planet if you haven't noticed. lol

I'm living proof too :) Caucasian female (me) and Thai boyfriend. In love in love. Difficult sometimes, but in love.

do not let fear prevent u from happiness-

Try mix race AND same sex!!!! (lol) for this is the one i am in

mixed race, same sex, mixed religions- oh boy!!!! All of this is so against what my family would want for me- but i was seriously unhappy and i've been practicing trusting my higher power (Allah) so, I took the leap...

4 years going on 5- the longest relationship of my life- alhumdulillah!!!!!!(all praise is due to Allah)

Go for it!!! It is scary as hell- but i had to give it a try for MY LIFE!!!

The only asian/white couples I've ever known have consisted of an asian female and white male..