Interracial Relationships Support Group

I have this problem with my boyfriend too - we just approach life so differently and sometimes it is frustrating and hard to understand.

What helps me a lot is to write it in a journal to put it into coherent thoughts/words. Especially if it's about something that I think is sensitive to approach. Then I open a conversation with him about my concerns, and most of the time he is also concerned about the topic too.

Hope you're doing well!

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We tend to be more aware of these differences when people are of different races but the reality is any major differences in back ground will cause some major issues to come up in relationships.
Differences in education, religion, the part of the country you grew up in, and most importantly how things were done in your own home and family. It is subconscious but we tend to think that how it was done at home is how it should be done and of course this is true for your bf too.
For years my husband and I would argue about things and couldn't understand why we had problems then it occured to me that we were assumming that what we said ment the same thing to each other. I mean the very words had the same meaning and you know this is often not true. The words we use and what they mean to us are loaded by our background and can end up meaning very different things, I'm sure cultural differences would only increase this disparity.
After that when we had disagreements I would ask just what does that word or sentence mean to you and the funny thing was we found that each of us had been trying to say the same thing but were coming at it from such different angles niether could see what the other had ment.
I agree that writing things out first is a big help especialy if its an emotional issue. The clearer you are about what you want to say the easier it will be for him to understand. Good luck, good relationships are hard to find.

My hubby and I bump heads a lot when it comes to way of life. We are at total ends of the spectrum when it comes to children, discipline, education, family and so forth. I feel a lot of it is our different backgrounds, he's African American and I'm Hispanic. It can be very tough at times but he is worth finding a common ground for. And I also keep a journal it's a great tool. I personally feel that individuals need to meet each other half ways unfortunately one might try to drag the other over to their side. Good luck. but even though it can get hard at times the two of you can learn so much from each other. We all can.

more than anything it really isn't the color that makes the clash, it's the culture the other person lived in. if culture wasn't a big difference then it's the environment they were raised in. that's what causes the major clashes between me and my bf. i grew up mostly on the complete opposite side of the world, where right and wrong are for sure right and wrong. but to him right and wrong are only a matter of opinion. our fights stem from this very basic thing 99% of the time. it doesn't help that we are both very stubborn people lol.

when we are tryin to work out our disagreements, we tend to explain, "In MY culture, this is how it is." and then he explains, "Well in America, this is how it is". so we kinda get a picture about how the other person's stand point is. then we try to either find a middle ground or one of us has to compromise somehow. sometimes we just take turns compromising. it's really hard, tho, and we bang heads a lot, but we love each other so much, we always find a way to somehow make it work.