Interracial Relationships Support Group

Your question has me slightly confused. Is who's love enough? If your talking about just your love for your husband in the face of his family who does not accept you or treat you with the respect you feel you deserve then I'm sorry but my answer is no.
Maybe I'm real old fashioned but I believe that once you marry then your first loyalty is to your spouse. Relatives and friends who do not show proper respect to that spouse need to be warned their behaivor will not be tolerated and if they don't listen then they need to be cut loose.
Once you have children the stakes are even higher. Hell would freeze before I let anyone in my family, or his for that matter, show disrespect to my husband or treat him badly.
If you've been married 15 years then everyone should have been straightened out a long damn time ago, long before there were children involved. What kind of lesson are you letting your children learn to put up with disrespect?

Sounds like your husband is being supportive of you, which is good and he should be. Since this is a sensitive time for you, there's nothing wrong with leaning on him more and allowing him to battle through his family for you.

There's nothing you can really do about his family - they will act as they act. It's so easy to entertain thoughts of running away, but what I think would be most helpful now is to face the problem and to try to work through it together with your husband.

Good luck!

Love is enough, you don't need the approval of his parents, your parents or any other person as long as you love one another. This love includes your husbands public approval and adoration of you. If my parents were unapproving then it would be simple, they lose not only a daughter-in-law, but they lose their son. I am personally called to my loyalty to my wife first, any one's non-acceptance of her, means non-acceptance of me, there is no difference, as the good Lord said "The two have become one". So if your husband is allowing your parents access to your family when they do not approve of you or show you the love that comes with being a family member then your husband needs to talk straight with them and say "I understand you have strong feelings and cannot come to accept my wife, which means that you cannot accept me or my children either. I do hope that your hearts will change in this matter, but until then we will not be seeing each other." Wifes love is more important than parents love. The man will leave his mother and father and cleave to his wife. Remember I am a Christian so my moral grounding for this is God's word, and His direction for my life, so this may all sound foriegn, so I am only sharing what I would have to do.

jesja,
How do you see her husband as being supportive? They have been married 15 years and his parents have never treated her as one of the family or been nice to her. inluv put it very correctly, when you marry your first obligation is to your spouse and if your parents, or anyone else in the family cannot treat that spouse with respect then there should be no contact until such time as they change their behavior.
Now after 15 years he is wanting to talk to them? To me that is not showing support that is showing the backbone of a doormat.

This problem, is in epidemic proportion; in-laws are sometimes jealous of their children. Do you have a hard time beleiving it? Well, please think again. It's always the same, it's about CONTROL, who gets to use it the best, to get what they want, so huge egos are involved here. To try and change things would only bring more pain, may I suggest to never mind them, they are consumed with fear of losing the love, attention, and devotion from their children; they may think you are an obstruction instead of a blessing. If they adore the grand-children, obviously it is not about color. Mothers are very close to their sons, they somehow wish to protect them from other females, beleiving they are the only ones, who can love them the right way. This you cannot change, I say go with the flow, and don't feel hurt anymore. Spending time with your family and forgetting about them for a while, will bring back some peace, and yes you have permission to do that, if you want it.
I wish you the best, but most of all, I wish that you be good to yourself...
Camilla
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Be in love with your husband. Be in love with your children. Fifteen years is a great achievement. You've walked the long road. Give yourself a pat on the back! Your husband's family is not important. They may never accept you, but, your husband does and your two children. That in itself states a lot!

As we all know, we dont have the ins and outs of most of the post that are placed on here. But it seems like flower H is supportive. He is willing to step to his parents when they get back on vacation. Thats a plus. I do agree with inluvwjesus, he should not deal with his parents if they cant accept his wife. It is wonderful that they dont have any issue with the kids but thats not enough.
And just because the parents dont have an issue with the kids doesnt mean they have except the AA part of them. I have known grandparent that love there grandkids but talk about how they wish they werent part___.
The main thing is they have an issue with you because you are of another race. A race they cant seem to bring themselves to accept. The answer is, you and your H have to set a united front. He has to let his parents know that if they cant accept you then they dont accept any of you. The children included. Once they know and understand, they will change there tune. They always do if they are close to there grand kids. They wont want to loose that connection. The thing is you will have to deal with the fall out. And there will be fall out. They will have to blame someone and that someone will be you. They may not tell you to your face but you will hear through the so called grape vine. the trick is not to let those things bother you. I know you are going through a hard time right now. I have been there. You just have to concentrate on yourself and your family. You have been with your H for 15 years so you know he loves you, and your kids go with out saying. Let there strength guide you. Lean on them and let the rest go.
I will be crossing my fingers and toes for you.