Interracial Relationships Support Group

I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years and we have a 2 year old and another child on the way. My boyfriend is very stubborn and everything has to be his way. I have found over the years that things are still interesting and there is always a challenge. I think that being with him has made me a more tolerant, and stronger person. I guess it all depends on the type you are surrounded by, just like it would be with any race.

I do not think that it is possible to say that any race of men acts one way or the other. I do think that people tend to seek out the same traits in people over and over and it is possible to attract the same type of person over and over. It is important to learn to judge people of any race on the basis of how they treat you and not miss the signs that let you know that the next person you are attracted to might have the same qualities. Also, if someone told you that that is how Black men treat White women, and you were with him, whether you think he was making an exception of himself or you or not, maybe he was suggesting the way that some people allow themselves to be treated is what draws certain people to them, and you might want to take what he said to heart and think about what you are putting out as your expectations. People of any race will treat you as well as you ask to be treated, and as badly as you will accept being treated.

I agree with the others on here....it's not the race that makes a man the way he is. I have dated and married black men all my life. My first husband was black but acted as white as they come and still very abusive addict. My "friend" now I spend my time with is the darkest man I've ever know and he's the most gentle most caring boundary respecting man I know......it's not the color of the skin. One must look beyond that and find what's inside their heart.

I understand you are not trying to stereotype. You worded your question well. In my opinion, No- most black men are not that way, most men in general are garbage though. Haha, no I am just being pessimistic. In all actuality, I believe that you are attracted to certain characteristics men or it sounds like black men in particular. I don't blame you some black men are pretty beautiful, unfortuanately I dont have junk in the trunk so I aint fly. (that is me stereotyping) lol. Anyways, these certain characteristics that attractyou to a certain type of person whcih in turn produces the same undesired result. My advice is to change your rules. Maybe you get hung up on looks, or skin color, or style. It doesnt mean your an ass but it does mean you need to be flexible. In other words, when you are single and that one guy that you would normally brush off, go on a date and give it a chance, youight surprise yourself. I surprised myself and three years later, still going like the energizer bunny. Good luck!

I am happily married to a wonderful man who is black. He is the sweetest, smartest guy I've ever known. I am hispanic and I had a white boyfriend and hispanic boyfriend in the past and I have to say that the race doesn't matter. Types of guys is what matters.
Make it known early in a relationship what you want from your partner and what you are looking for. its a small step but it can make a huge difference. Then you are clear on what it is you dont want or will not tolerate. It will make your partner respect you more and if they do not then you know it wasn't meant to be. Your wants and needs should be met and the race of your partner will not determine this.

Good luck and stay strong:)

what you've described as selfish, cheaters, and $$ hungry... that describes a lot men, regardless of color. i've seen enough that aren't black or latino and act that way.

i'm sure you will find a good man out there, you just have to look for the signs. really watch their behavior and not just take attn to their looks. get to know him better before dating him. maybe become friends first. if they aren't patient enough to wait and get to know you better before trying to get in your pants, then he's a looser. also, find out his moral stance on things. find out what his parents have taught him, etc. you get the picture.

good luck with all that!