Interracial Relationships Support Group

I have been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years now. He is black (I am white) and he is also older, by 9 years. Unfortunately you already made a mistake by keeping it a secret, the best thing is honesty. Your parents aren't going to be too happy about the situation but if you and he have the strength you can make it. My parents have had issues since the minute I told them about my relationship and they have tried to get me to end it with him many times, they even took away my car and phone at one point to try and keep me away from him but the love we have is something they don't understand, and don't expect them to understand because they aren't in your situation. So just be honest and go into it strong, if you really want it to work it can work, you just have to REALLY want it and be strong enough to take whatever your parents dish out in return.

My husband and I are 9 years apart. I'm 24, he's 33. I'm black, puerto rican, and native american. My family was'nt too cool with the age difference at first, but him being white was'nt a huge issue. I had told them ahead of time before ever meeting my husband that I had a preference on age and race and it was older white guys. They got to know Shane, and the age difference between the two of us had gotten overlooked. It's non-family members that seem to have the problem with us being together and having a baby due to race. Anyways, where I'm getting at is if you knew you may have had preferences on race or age or whatever, it's best to tell the family ASAP!! Sometimes, when you hold things especially like that for a long time, it can make matters or the relationship with your family worse, and then they will probably not be able to trust you or they'll think you could be hiding other things.

I met my ex when I was 15 and he was 21. I am white and he was black. My mom hated him!! But she hated the fact that he was black more than anything!! She will never get over the fact that i am attracted to black guys. But the way I see it is i cant live my life to make anyone else happy but myself. She can love it or hate it but its just the way I am. She brings me down and says rude things to me sometimes but she should be supportive of me no matter what I do..... and shes not so all i can do is be myself. If hes the one you really want then dont let anyone else tear yall apart.

UPDATE: my mom totally saw me walking down the street holding hands with my 34 year old black boyfriend. When I got home all my dad could say was "Really?" So now that they know a lil bit more about my boyfriend and it has gone kinda smoothly so far. Except when my dad tells me to go find a young college kid lol