Interfaith Relationships Support Group

I am Muslim and engaged with a Christian woman. I feel your concerns as to being a mother. Maybe you should consult a Muslim scholar in such a delicate situation.

I am new to Islam nor am I able to provide much information in your situation. But I hope you find the answers and help in what it is that your seeking help for.

Based on what I know, a child has to be raised as Muslim. Me and my fiancee had talks about this situation and differences in faiths. As for our faiths, we respect eachothers way of life. But I warned her of our having kids that they have to be brought up as Muslim. Maybe you should pray and ask GOD for help and support in such a delicate situation. GOD is best of planners and He knows best.

GODBLESS!

There's only one christian/muslim relationship I've known of and the child was completely manipulated by the muslim husband while the mother was out. Even though they both sent the child to sunday school and she went to church with the mother. So this kind of situation scares me. :(

That's what scares me to be honest but more his family than him

Honestly I hate to say it but my boyfriends parents are VERY hardcore methodists, even as a catholic I don't want a methodist baby and they don't want a catholic baby and in the back of my head I'm actually afraid that when they're visiting or babysitting him/her they'll start planting seeds against what mommy believes...

In the Qu'ran, it clearly states that religion cannot be forced onto anyone. "There is no compulsion in religion, the truth stands out clearly from falsehood." (Al-Baqarah: 256)

In order to be a Muslim, you must willingly submit to God. Therefore, it is impossible to be Muslim by force.

According to the teachings, you are allowed to expose your children to your religion, but you are not allowed to force them into adopting it. Your partner should also be permitted to do the same. When the child/children come into adulthood, they are allowed to choose their path and the parent is not held accountable for whichever decision they make.

I believe that is a suitable compromise. If your partner feels guilty, tell him to pray to Allah to guide you and the child(ren) on the true path. If anyone tries to accuse your husband of kufr, then remind them that doing so goes against the teachings. (Attributing kufr to others can cause it to backfire and can actually do them harm- be sure they are warned of this)

I hope this helps some. ;o)

Thank you Ciora.

That is exactly how I want to raise her, to have an understanding of both our religions but for her to choose her own way in life when she is old enough.