Infidelity Support Group

I forgot this one.It was just a game he didnt realise till he seen me so hurt and sobbing one night what he had done.So then he thought it was just a game.(Yoville via facebook)

Wow...you can't kick yourself for his actions. We have all heard that thier cheating was our fault. Guess what? I don't buy it and niether do so many here. I hope you hear from them too.

They do this so you feel so crappy about yourself. So that they are not at fault.

It's all bull.

He thought this was a game? On Facebook? Called Yoville? He seriously should have known what he was doing...and that it was wrong - because he was hiding it from you, wasn't he?

YOu didn't know he was doing this. All the time he spent on his computer ignoring you, looking for other women...and now he blames you for ignoring HIM?

I would love to have a chat with this clown. Feel free to send him my way.

L~

They do it to feed their hunger for attention and excitement. Sometimes marriage can be boring. But he has the responsibility to also see that your lives are full and complete as a married couple.

One person can't hold a marriage together and when one strays away because of his choice instead of working on the marriage it hurts horribly to know what he has done.

They have to twist their words and make it your fault to get rid of their guilt.

Why do they cheat? Because they can. Because sometime they feel entitled to have as many women as they can. It's exciting to be in a new realtionship and they get all this attention from the new woman and the wife. Sometimes they don't even know. It's just an urge they don't want to control and they forget or don't care who will be hurt.

The OP gives them 100% attention with NO other issues...like paying bills, driving kids here n there, grocery store,. in-laws....... Every day stuff.....Now this new person comes along,

(who by the way, it dosen't matter what they
look like, infact most of the time they are ugly as shit, but they can spread their legs just fine.) So do not doubt your appearance at all, Loobyloo..............

This new person who just pays attention to them, and it's sorta like when you first start dating , everythings new, and exciting and there are no outside issues to deal with.

Reality is though, these outside issues are TREMENDOUS, but the adulturer is not thinking of anyone but themselves while it is happeneing.

DO NOT BLAME YOURSELF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hello looby
It is usually the person that betrays that isn't giving enough in the marriage.
It is NOT YOU! So stop blaming yourself.
If the cheaters put the energy into their marriage and give the attention to their partners that they are giving to the OP/affair, then many more marriages can and would work.
Involving a third party is not the answer but it is done to satisfy their own selfish needs, without a thought for their spouse.
The betrayed often blame their spouse for their wrong doing and by doing this they are not taking responsibility for their actions. It's easier to blame someone else. He has to own his own behaviour, take responsibility for it and carry the burden.
I hope in time you can both work through this but you will need his full committment.
God bless
A

In all due honesty, they cheat because they can. That is why anyone would cheat- because they could. We can't control that, but we can control how we respond to it. I chose to leave.