Infidelity Support Group

If only you could fire that ass twice, huh?

So sorry that you are here.

I have to say, that if she is that torn about choosing between staying or going, she is most likely already gone - in her head and heart. No instant remorse? No huge apology and swearing the guy off? If not, the writing is already on the wall.

You say she moved out and is enjoying herself. Not good. Not nice for you. I hope you don't feel the fool. You didn't deserve this and didn't have this coming.

So sorry and sending support, L~

How awful!

File for full custody of your children as quickly as you ca. she has abandoned them. Protect them!

And as for the contractor? At the very least do a candid Yelp review of his "work."

Poke some holes in her litle fantasy! Expose to anyone that she cares about. Press forward with divorce proceedings. Separate bank accounts etc. She has attacked you and the marriage....time to attack back!!!

I would expose her too. I publicly exposed my husband his slutty married girlfriend on my husband's facebook page. They were both publicly humiliated and it felt great. I would also tell her family. I called my mother-in-law and told her and she was so ashamed of him (of course). I wouldn't let her get away with pretending to be a good person. I believe in exposing people for what they are. Don't walk around pretending to be a good caring person when, in reality, you are a lying, cheating, immoral disrespectful piece of crap.

I know I sound bitter right now, but that's because I am. Maybe in time I won't be so angry but, right now, I'm pretty pissed off. You deserve better than your wife. You need to take care of yourself and your two kids. Don't forget that this is not your character flaw but her character flaw. She is the bad person here...not you. Hope you're doing better and know that you're not alone here.

She doesn't want to end the marriage , yet she doesn't want to leave him. Awe how cute, her perfect little world is a fantasy. She obviously cannot have it both ways, so do NOT give it to her. Make up her lil old mine for her- file the divorce.

At this point, she is REALLY saying "Let me use you while I continue to fuck around on you".

Thank you all for such wonderful support. This forum is really good for getting some objective opinions as it is easy to justify and accept the most awful situations. Thank you.

Hello Kev
I'm sure you are most aware that an affair is the frisson of fantasy and the illicit and fuelled with excitement and lust! In most affairs when reality hits them they are over. Reality is the real world where fantasy is just that! Cheaters prefer the later!
I am so very sorry that you are finding yourself here; it is a rolercoaster ride that we have all been on and survived though we've all had a rough time.
There are so many messages with good advice and there are many men like yourself that have experienced betrayal, they will offer you so much support and share their experiences alongside all of the wonderful woman of this group.
Whatever you decide to do we are all here to support you.
Take care of you and the children and just keep going.
Don't look to far ahead and live in each day and get through it.
I hope that you have friends and family to support you, this will help.
God bless
A

So Kev, let me ask you this - is the contractor getting away with all of this without consequences? Is he doing other jobs around the area or is he connected with a larger company? Is there some means to strike back at him for invading your life like this? Seems he might be in the clear, but he shouldn't be. Maybe local knowledge of this might damage him too, at least financially. Just a thought.

As for your wife, I'm sure she's swallowed up in her fantasy land, as others have mentioned. I'm guessing, however, that when she sees that you and the kids are moving forward in life without her, as sad as they may be to you and your family, then she might just "snap to". Maybe not all is lost in the long run, but just for now. I hope for a positive outcome for you, if that's possible at this point.

-TheRule

I am so sorry.

You need to think what you.

She is in that fantasy world.

Hang in there. so sorry for how your marriage tunred out to be.
If the kids are little, it will be easier to get this finished.
I have a feeling she may come back in a few months after the sex thing ends, but you have to be ready.
best wishes.