Infidelity Support Group

Maybe there is a reason you just can't get "over it". One being, you shouldn't have to, and the other being perhaps your gut is telling your head that you know better. Only HE knows, but he won't share that information.

If you can't get over it, you just can't. It won't be your fault.

Sexting someone else AND the nail marks on his shoulder? I don't think anyone would be alright with that.

He's your boyfriend. Easy to walk away at this point. Sure, you may love him but there can't be any trust anymore.

Can you imagine feeling like this for YEARS to come? Why put yourself thru that?

Some things you just can't get past. YOu have found that this is one of them for you. Count it as a good life lesson and keep going...away from him, by the way.

Don't feel bad...L~

Sexting someone because it makes them feel attractive? Are you neglecting your boyfriend....shame on you! LOL!

Seriously, if he is doing that, what else has he been up to? If I were sexting someone because it makes me feel attractive, then I might as well actually do it with him too. Obviously, if I felt that way, then my relationship with bf or husband isn't the relationship for me. Maybe it isn't for him either...? Think long and hard about this? Do you want to spend the rest of your life mistrusting him? NO! Don't let yourself become a victim like so many of us where you end up marrying the guy and having kids and it NEVER gets any better. So many will continue to cheat, one way or another.

Focus on yourself. Get through this and move on. Look forward to other better things. Don't waste your time on someone who's doing those types of things, even thinking about it for christ sakes. He's obviously not worth it. Find mister right!

Scratch marks...my spouse had fingernail scratch marks (on each side of his back, pretty much identical marks). Unless he got attacked by a cat or bear, he cheated. And, they usually lie until confronted with real proof, and even then they'll lie.

When everything in you is telling you something is wrong, then it is. Trust your instincts. He can not be trusted and be thankful that you know now and not after you have kids. Really...you are much better off knowing now. You've got to trust yourself. Good luck.

First off, it is not your fault that you, "can't get over it". He is the one who is in the wrong here and once the trust is broken it is nearly impossible to slavage the relationship and while we all want to be that one relationship that makes it the truth is the longer you stay in the relationship the more you are only hurting yourself. I understand your desire to want to believe him & get over it, I tried the same thing, I tried to, "get over it" for over two years & the truth is it never got better, I never truly trusted him & it only made it all the more difficult. I felt ridiculous especially considering the fact that I was having trust issues about something that happened two years ago. I know you need to do what is best for you but trust me, you need to put yourself first in this situation.

I would get out of this relationship now before you are married with kids. You deserve better and have no attachment to this guy that would make you have to stay and try to "get over it."

You are smart enough to know, deep in your heart and soul, that what he did IS unforgivable. There is NEVER a reason or an excuse for doing this to you. He betrayed your trust. Separate yourself from him, my dear. He has a long road to walk to gain your trust back.