What is Infidelity
Adultery is generally defined as consensual sexual intercourse by a married person with someone other than his or her lawful spouse. In many jurisdictions, an unmarried person who ...
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Why is it that they (the cheater)blames everybody and everything except for themselves?
My husband has blamed me giving too much attention to our oldest son so he then called escorts. Hmmmmm.....I found out he had an affair with a lady in his rehab class also. He had a prescription drug problem. (16 years worth) It is always somebody else's fault. I am not perfect, I will admit that. What good are marriage vows if everyone has an excuse to break them? When is it enough? I feel like a door mat. Posted on 11/05/09, 05:11 pm |
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GSugar:
You are not the only one feeling like that. My wife blames me for her affair, with the issues I never knew as the issues. One of many reasons I hate about cheating is that it shows the ugly side of our spouse which we are not prepared to recognize. 
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It can't work and you can't stay together if he continues to blame you.
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If they blame us, it takes some of their feelings of guilt away or makes them think that others will see it as them "having an excuse" to cheat.
Don't worry about it, you know the truth and that's all that matters. Cheating POS usually do it more than once, so in time, everyone else will know.
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Nice. So he blames you for trying to be a good mom to justify his actions. Real nice.
I am sure his drug issue was also your fault? For me, putting the drug addiction issue with the blame game? This guy has leaps and bounds to go thru in his recovery. That has to be about solid 'self accountability.' If he is still blaming everyone else for his mistakes, he will just relapse shortly. Count on it. He'll also cheat on you again. If this continues to be his position - that this is all your fault and always has been? If he is stubborn about it? Won't budge? Tell him to live somewhere else until he gets his head out of his ass. Until he gets to self accountability in the recovery handbook. They do this. Don't accept it. My Ex tried to blame me too. Poor baby. Same thing. I told him that 'the only way I'll take responsibility for this is if I opened your zipper FOR HER myself. I didn't. GET OUT.' Just my two cents, L~
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