Infidelity Support Group

You are right.

you shouldnt take them seriously at all unless they exhibit actions- not just words.

THey may say whatever it takes, but their actions speak louder than words.

Watch. And see it they stand the test of time...


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yeah, my H's "I'll do anything" means going to counseling, not talking to other women in appropriately, and respecting my affection boundaries (after telling him 3 times) and that's about it. It doesn't include stopping all contact with female friends, really trying to find the root of his addiction, or speaking to me honestly about what he's feeling. Oh and it does include threatening suicide when our conversations get serious.

So I agree with everyone on here. You have to see his actions, they will either back up or NOT back up his words.

Good luck. I hope your H really WILL do everything.

take it slow - trust your gut - but also try to stay positive about what it is you truly want....keep your heart open and don't settle for anything less than what you deserve....best wishes to you - stay strong.

At first yes but then their behavior and actions afterwards should speak volumes.

Actions do speak louder than words, and obviously your partner has already betrayed your trust with their actions. So how is it that he/can can hope to regain your trust simply with words?
They can't. The only way for them to overcome their poor actions is with strong good ones, ones that display an altered behavioral pattern for a long while to come. At least, until you can trust those actions as well as their motiviations.
Best of luck to you...

They say they will. But they won't for long! That is my experience.

my experience is that they say what they think you want to hear and then they figure out a way to keep doing what they're doing without you finding out about it this time. I dont believe ANYTHING he says anymore. Verify. Verify. Verify. That's what i say.