Infidelity Support Group

This is close to laughable, however "laughable" and "infidelity" should never be used together in here.

All I can say Crazy is just wait. Just wait long enough and when your 59-yr old H finds out, I'd sure like to see how callous your comments are then.

This is probably a hoax of a post, but if not, then unless you're demon-spawn, your world and his will forever be altered.

If only I had found this site first....

-TheRule

This makes me appreciate who my wife is all the more, despite her affair.

Sorry if I came off as callous, and no this isn't a hoax. I do love my husband very much. And when it comes to our sexual life, he does try. But, it has become more and more frustrating. He gets what he wants, I don't. And I have tried to tell him and show him, but that hasn't worked. Part of it is his responsibility to educate himself about what a woman wants.
In all honesty, he could have ED.
For me it wasn't about falling in love, it was just the sex. I wanted to know what great sex would be like, and my friend is sexually adventurous. I knew what he could give, and I took it.
I am making no excuses here. We shouldn't have but we did.

Pretty sad that the best sex you ever had was on the living room floor.

At 59 years old, you should have a list of more interesting and romantic sex.

Furthermore, I personally have NEVER had outstanding sex on the first shot.

Sex always improves when you get to know the person, even if you are not in love with them.

Oh wow, name calling now. Up to this point in our marriage (23 years) I have never slept with anyone else. This is a first for me.
Too bad no one can be a little more constructive with there advice. I can understand why you all are being so harsh tho.

Im not 59, my husband is. Im 52

Sure, I'll jump in here. Why not?

Heck, I was married for 20 years and granted, the sex got to be marginal at best. You get into a humdrum routine type of thing, right? I get that. YOu also mentioned ED. Erectile disfunction? I am going to assume I have that correct.

(Nope, I didn't cheat. My EX H did.)

Alright...given some of the facts here, I can understand your wanting to have some great sex. You got me there. Sex is fantastic. But...the cheating...

I can understand why this happened. I don't condone it but I do understand it. Just like I can understand really wanting to rob a bank...but I don't condone actually doing it. (We can all see this point...right?)

Let me repeat - I can understand wanting to do it but not your ACTUAL doing it.

You don't mention that you feel guilty about it. In fact, you are curious that you don't feel guilty.

Would you feel guilty if you loved your man? I think your lack of guilt may speak volumes of your feelings for your man. I have to assume you are no longer in love with him. But I could be wrong.

I also have to extend some support for your man. To be possibly suffering from ED and to have his wife get her best sex elsewhere...well...how emasculating for him. I sincerely hope you understand this point. He is probably, already, deeply mortified by this. To have his partner in life do this and not feel guilt...(shaking my head here)...I hope, on some level, you have considered how awful your treatment is to him.

If you ever cared for the man, ever...consider not staying with him.

You are asking our advice as to why you feel no guilt? Is that your question? Hmmmm...I think there are rare people who don't feel guilt, who have no conscience. I hope you are not one of them.


(Still shaking my head here...)

L~

Pssst...one more note here...

I also have a best friend. Hell, we all do. My best friend loves me and I love her.

We would never stear eachother into such a detrimental direction.

This can't be your best friend...

L~

You have a choice to make, in my opinion.

Tell your husband and try to work on the marriage or have the decency to leave him so he can find happiness.

Good luck with whatever you decide.

The reason why you don't feel guilty about is because not everyone enjoys self torture and you are able to forgive yourself.
I wish I had those qualities...I'm actually envious of you, because when this happened to me at a young age, I ate myself up inside and broke off the relationship.

The thing is, most people on this support group are DEVASTATED by what their cheating partners have done to them, so I doubt that you will find much sympathy or support here.


Good luck!