Infidelity Support Group

because admitting he has cheated would be admitting he did something wrong and 99% of the time, they aren't capable or won't admit they were in the wrong.

More important is that you know what he did and what steps you have to take to protect yourself from it happening again.

Don't wait around for any absolution from him. He's not worth it.

because he is a jerk!

Some never do admit it...even with tons of proof standing in front of them. THey just never, ever will.

my point? You know. You know. You know.

Thier words will never change their actions. Don't let it drive you crazy.

Sometimes, I think we want that confession to make us feel that 'hey, at least we deserve this from that person.' We think we deserve that much respect. But, the big picture dictates that they didn't respect us enough to NOT cheat, so why would they respect us enough to admit it or try to explain it?

Hard proof stands on it's own. YOu may never get the admission, but it's something that you can live without. Don't let this drive you nuts. Or is that what he wants???

My two cents, L~

My husband said the same "I'm not in Love with you line". He also denied his affairs many times to me at first thinking that I couldn't prove anything. He was wrong & after many weeks he finally admitted that he had cheated not with just one woman but with two. It tore my heart out. We are however trying to rebuild our marriage & it's been over a year since d-day. Sorry for your pain!

i got the''i'm not in love with you anymore". i seems like a code phrase for " i found someone i do love". it all truly sucks! it's easy to leave when you have someone waiting for you. i wish you amnesia,ha ha.

In some cases, because it gives them some sense of superiority and/or control.

My ex wouldn't admit for the LIFE of him ( or the life of us) his cheating either. In fact, when he did admit it- he then took it back; all in all he changed his story so many times it was ridiculous. In MY case, my ex did it on purpose ( he was an abuser) to just keep control. He had me curious, upset, playing detective and generally unhappy. He liked it when he was in control of me- even including my emotions.

Most of the time, they won't admit it for the same exact reason Dad said.

Whatever the case, its not worth your time. Believe me, its not. Let him to his own game playing. You are doing everything right. I fully support you for kicking him out that day and deciding to move on with your life.

in some cases too...like mine, they will eventually admit it, but only when they are faced with concrete, fool-proof evidence. But they will stall and stall as long as they can because they either need time to build their escape route, or they need time to have as much fun without worry of getting caught as they can.

If he wont admit it just let him carry that guilt to his grave. When he's on his death bed begging for your forgiveness, say nope go to hell and walk away. There's my two cents.

And then you have some that have no guilt and could care less about your forgiveness. I believe their goal in life is to see how many hearts they can destroy. They have no conscience. It's all a game to them.
How do you ever get redemtion from them? The "what goes around comes around" saying...does it really? I want him to hurt as much as he hurt me.

Mine didn't have to admit it, because I caught them together - but guess what? He cheated on me, his family, and it was MY FAULT! Cheaters are weak and not capable of accepting the fact.