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Trust your gut!

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She could also be really stressed. The only way to find out is to trust your gut and keep snooping. Show up at night school unannounced- start there.

I think it is possible that she is exploring life again as a new person. going to school gives an adult person such a great sense of pride, independence and a feeling that she is not just a wife and a mother but an individual who can exist and be worth something outside of the marriage.
Maybe she has a crush on someone, so she feels young again. May be she is just INSPIRED by whatever she is doing at shcool and the new people she is meeting.
Personally, feeling inspired is the best feeling I can feel right now.
Be frank and tell your wife what's on your mind and see what she says.
I hope that she is not cheating, but then again, I look at the positive more than the negative most of the time.

Gut feelings are so often right. It's true, she may be just inspired, but I would trust your gut.

I like the way aronia thinks... you should talk to her and NEVER ignore or dismiss your instincts..

I agree with aronia on this one. I went back to school also during my marriage. It opened up worlds for me. I felt complete, challenged, content, on track...pretty charged all the time.

My Ex didn't understand any of this. But he was never one to even look at a book. Further learning for him? Would never happen. When I went back to school, we were sooooo on opposite pages all the time. He could not understand WHY I needed to do this at all...or even why I enjoyed beating my mind bloody all the time.

It could be that she is just truly enjoying this direction that her life is taking. It doesn't mean that she is automatically cheating. She falls asleep when she had said she wanted to have sex? She could be tired, that's all.

Sure, if I were you, I would check things out a bit more. Show up after night classes and take her out for a drink to catch up with her on her life, what she is learning, one on one time. It can't hurt. Yes, put your mind at ease.

Yes, I met so many great individuals at school, but no one person in particular. These people got me excited about my future and challenged me.

But.....check it out for your own peace of mind, L~

I've been married 11 years and my husband never before gave me reason to suspect anything but he recently cheated and my gut just knew immdiately. I would start checking up on her but hope that you're wrong.

I agree with Aronia. It sounds like she's happy and rediscovering herself since she's trying new things. It's an exciting time in her life and she feels good about herself. That isnt reason for alarm. Just be sure to be supportive and join her in her growth or she'll outgrow you and can potentially find someone that will appreciate her "new" self.

Its to bad that we just cant trust the ones we care about anymore

"I have noticed are that she a) gets angry about little things that she used to ignore b) spends a lot of time away for things other than school (dinner with friend, dance lessons, etc) c) lately she claims she is interested in being intimate but then falling asleep d) a few weeks ago she began being very 'into' our intimate time. Finally, this morning I asked one of kids if mom has been acting differently. My daughter said, yes, mom has been a lot more cheerful lately."
Maybe I'm not reading this right....but she sounds tired and happy to me! Maybe she's just feeling more fullfilled?

I have an idea....Why don't you ASK her intead of snooping around? Trust until that trust is broken...