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Counselling is an excellent idea. The counsellor does tell you what to do, but helps you to get to your natural conclusion, cope with all the mixed feelings you have regarding the issue and achieve clarity. Sweetie, if you are feeling suicidal and have a plan, call 911. Know that nothing is worth losing your life for. You have so much to offer the world, your friends and your family. They would miss not having you around. You are not alone and you will feel better once you get some help. Know that having a baby in not the end all of life. There are many other options.

Tell your husband how you're feeling especially if you're feeling suicidal. I know you feel lost and sad but don't do anything rash. Counseling will help you. People need to talk about these things in order to cope and move on. Don't feel bad about needing counseling it can be very helpful. You're hurting and that's natural but your family loves you no matter what please take care of yourself.

Some months I do get depressed, and I wish that my husband would have met a woman who could give him a family. I often feel guilty that I have taken that away from him. I think depression and death often walk hand in hand.

I started my period today and I feel a little down and my heart is heavy but I've been quoting the Serenity prayer to help me get through this. I just dont understand whyyyy this is happening to us and I want to see another RE but I feel like my husband is concerned about me going deeper into a depression... I'm at a lost for words.

Xanadu just know that you're not alone even thought it may feel like it!

You need to seek counseling! If you are truly going through depression, you need to get that taken care of prior to getting pregnant. I know it sounds as if pregnancy will fix everything, but true depression is caused by a chemical imbalance in your body. Getting pregnant can just enhance that.

If you are just sad that it hasn't happened and feel like you would be better off dead... I understand that feeling!

I've been both! I've had the loaded gun literally in my hand and thankfully was interupted by what I can only believe was God. He came to me in a neighbor I didn't know that knocked and opened my door. Saw me and convinced me nothing was that bad.

Relax! Take some deep breaths and love the two steps you have. When God is ready He will grant your wish. I'm 36 and my arms are still empty... not to mention the multiple losses. You can move through this!

Promise if you feel the desire to do harm to yourself that you will contact someone and talk through it all.

I'm troubled by your post. The mere mention of suicide caused the hair on the back of my neck to stand up! Please get counseling. Infertility is NOT terminal. INFERTILITY IS NOT TERMINAL. Yes, it sucks. Yes, it is unfortunate. Yes, it brings on a wave of emotion like nothing I have ever felt before - but infertility is not going to kill you. Please, please seek help. Much love to you!

I too have had suicidal thoughts with my infertility. When I felt myself getting too bad I sought the help of a counselor. I do not take any meds. I did take some St. John's Wart during the winter (a natural herb thought to help with depression). It did seem to work some. The counseling helps the most. I also read two great books. One is Unsung Lullabies and the other (the title hurts) Never to be a Mother. Both are awesome books that show you other women have gone through this and managed to survive. Having a baby will not be a miracle cure though to your depression. Seeing a counselor that specializes in infertility related problems is the key though...you will feel so much better having a sympathetic ear where you can unload all your pent up feelings and you won't be judged.

Your post is quite disturbing to me. Please tell me you are just using a figure of speech and not really contemplating suicide!!!! My best friend of 38 years just lost her dear brother and my lifelong friend to suicide!! NOTHING BUT NOTHING is worth taking your life over. Think of all the people you will leave behind!!! You have NO idea what you will do to the people around you!!! I was just about to post my final posting when I stopped to read your disturbing message!!! I too am very heartbroken over our let downs month after month!! I just completed my 10th and final iui and I just got AF! YOU ARE NOT ALONE!! There are millions out there just like us!! II am just going to be blunt with you, it is not fair for you to be thinking about suicide!! Take a look around you, the whole world is infertile! whether black, white, spanish, korean, I even saw 5 amish couples in my office! It's just the way it goes!! You really need to tell your feelings to your husband and get some help!! Please don't even think about it!!!! I know how frustrating this is and that's why I can say what I say to you, so please just take a deep breathe and share your feelings!!! Keep posting so we know you are ok!!!!

Yes counseling is a great idea...I just purchased this book, Conquering Infertility: Dr. Alice Domar's Mind/Body Guide to Enhancing Fertility and Coping with Infertility.I saw some good reviews on Amamzon.com. I will let you all know the outcome.



~ess

my thoughts and prayers are with you. please keep your head up and talk to your husband.

You're not alone!!